Monogamy Revisited – Natural or Not?

I have written before about monogamy.

I gave two views on monogamy: one view states God designed men for monogamy and the other is that men are promiscuous by nature and that they must harness and manage their sexual urges for the betterment of humanity and for the betterment of their own spirituality. 

For years I have held the position that men are not wired for monogamy. Male biology does not seem to be wired for it. We seem to crave sexual variety and quickly grow discontent with our singular source of sexual access. Granted, mere biological optimization speaks neither for nor against the morality of something. Much of Christianity wars against our nature. Man’s biology seems to naturally pull him towards promiscuity. But one new perspective is that this nature is merely the result of no mental discipline. 

It is worth performing a thought experiment and analysis on, though I still believe that men are not purpose-built for monogamy. It seems to me that both men and women have internal wars they have to fight against their own very nature in order to be obedient to God. Men resist the urge to spread their sexual seed as far and wide as possible. And women resist the urge to constantly trade up, or they try to reorient their thinking to find Christianity attractive [not arousing] and value those traits in a man. 

I think one of the places I have gone wrong before in writing about monogamy is not separating man into his different drives. I do not believe we should think of monogamy as something that man as a whole is or is not wired for. What I mean by this is that man has multiple layers.

The libido of man is not optimized for monogamy. If a man is trying to remain sexually disciplined – his biology will be warring against him. The Coolidge effect and subsequent experiments are demonstrative of that reality. 

There is no way for one singular source of sexual access [a wife] to compete with a variety [multiple girlfriends/pornography] of novel sources in a one-to-one comparison. Again – we are speaking strictly of the amoral male libido in this circumstance. When the question is simply about sex and sex drive, men are wired to want multiple partners. This is something that Christian men have to discipline themselves against in order to manage. 

The spirit of man is optimized for monogamy. Now the higher mentality of man may want to be monogamous. Maybe this is natural, maybe it is the result of feminine-centric society indoctrinating him about “Soul mates” and other common myths, it is difficult to truly tell. 

I think when the higher mind of a man competes with his libido, most libidos will win. The discipline to manage themselves is simply not present in most men. I believe I’ve read before by another author that “biology trumps conviction”. I believe that statement – which is why environmental control is so critical to any form of discipline.

Want to be monogamous? Create an environment that supports monogamy. Because your biology is doing you no favors. 

This is the bedrock philosophy of why men shouldn’t be alone with other women. And I think men and women cannot be friends at all. Why would a man have to avoid being with other women if he were naturally monogamous? The answer is: he isn’t. And if a man was alone with a woman, his biology would be waging total war against his conviction, and it would be difficult to see who would come out the victor.

The best-case scenario is to never engage in those battles. This is done by environmental control. Do not trust in your character, trust in habit and environment. 

On Mental Training

If you never provide a child with any direction, he will grow up to be an uncivilized man. If you never train a dog, it will grow up to be disobedient and feral. Could it be that men are the same way with regard to sexual training and discipline? 

Perhaps men actually are designed to be monogamous, but they lack training and direction with regard to sexual discipline. They have never been given any direction on how to manage their sex drive. Men receive no training on how to handle their own physiology or use it productively in order to be successful in the world. 

And it is no wonder. Because what do men in the church know about this? They have obviously failed on the front of sexual education for young Christians for generations. 

You have two basic types of men in the church. These are opposing extremes, and they are certainly not all there is, but they are the most glaring examples.  
  1. The unfaithful man acts on every sexual impulse he has and eventually relinquishes his religion and goes into the world or finds a church tolerant enough to ignore the bible’s teaching on marriage and accept his adulterous lifestyle.
  2. And on the other side, you have the castrated beta male. These are the men who come out of the womb without testicles. They are subservient to females, pedestalize them, and mindlessly self-sacrificer to the vagina gods in order to receive their good favor. This man loves to tell you about how “rewarding” and “fulfilling” his marriage is, despite observable evidence to the contrary. 

The former makes up about 20% of the church and the latter makes up the remaining 80%. 

What would a man look like if he was actually trained from his youth to manage his sexual impulses? Or better yet, to convert them into success? That would be a rare breed of man. He would not fall into any of these two categories. 

But there will never be any type of training like that because what religious man knows anything about sexual discipline? Most religious men either have no sexual access, or babble on about sexual purity one minute and are masturbating to pornography the next minute. Have any of these men seen the heat of the sexual battlefield, claimed victory, and lived to tell the tale? 

The majority of men who are masculine and high value commonly fail to save sex for marriage. So we cannot listen to their advice – they lost their war. Those who are beta males are the ones we want to avoid imitating our actions as well if we are interested in avoiding sexless marriages. 
revisiting monogamy

But men could be built better [regarding sexual discipline] from a young age, no one can deny this. One of the problems is far too much feminine influence at the expense of masculine influence. When kids spend all day around mom is it any wonder when they start acting like mom [even the sons]? 

Men could be raised and trained to manage their urges, channel their sex drive and transmute it into something better. Convert it into a drive for success until it can be used morally, based on the principles of the Bible, within marriage.

I always hesitate to make comments about “biblically correct sex” because there is no way to talk about it without looking and sounding like a loser. Probably because the only people who talk about it are losers on the scale of masculinity. 

However, I can acknowledge the fact that men are likely built to crave sexual variety, but then required to sacrifice that drive for the sake of Christ. 

Notice that this is not a sacrifice made for the express benefit of women. Christ has asked us to do something difficult – limit our sexual relationships to one woman for life.

That’s not easy. That is not a light request. That is a heavy request and a painful sacrifice. It’s not a sacrifice made directly for women – it is a sacrifice made directly for God. And it is something that is difficult to reason through, especially at the height of a sexual urge that you have no religiously justified outlet for if you are a single man. 

This walk of faith comes at a cost to your pleasures. The Bible tells us that sin is pleasurable [Heb 11:25], anyone who says otherwise is lying to you. The sins of this world are very enjoyable to engage in. And to give them up for Christ is a major sacrifice. 

It is a sacrifice because we want those pleasures badly, we are built to crave them, yet we must deny ourselves. And we are left to hope that trading all the pleasures on earth will be worth the pleasures of heaven. It doesn’t matter how good heaven is made to sound by your preacher, that is still a hard trade for a 19-year-old guy at the height of his natural testosterone production trying to stifle a sexual urge or hide his erection while sitting in a church pew.

How about instead of continuing to say “Well it’ll be worth it. Heaven will be worth it. Marriage will be worth it. Everything will make sense”, we start to accept the fact that the trade is difficult. It is just difficult. It may very well be true that marriage is “worth it”, whatever that may mean, but that does not mean marriage is any less of a sacrifice and a risk [professional, financial, social, sexual, emotional, psychological] for a man – especially in the 21st century. 

Closing

Job said that he made a covenant with his eyes never to look at a woman lustfully. What kind of mental training does that involve? Sure, we could sit around and argue all day that Job did not have the same temptations and pressures that men today have. Many modern women are walking advertisements for sex, and we can always point fingers and say Job had it easier. But the reality is that this man set rules and regulations for the proper use of his own mind. There were certain ways that it was to be used and certain ways that were not allowed. He likely passed this training on to his sons as well. 

We should work to replicate the mind of Job, the man who imposed complete control on his own body. And if we work to train ourselves and to train our sons from a  young age, perhaps they will be in a better position than most Christians. Because while the people in the church want to sit around and pretend like sex does not exist, their sons are already learning more about sex from school and the internet than they could ever expect. 

The difficulty in managing sexual drive demands better sexual education in the church. Again I note that most men do not know anything about sex. They know little about purity and warring against urges successfully because women find the majority of men unattractive and low value, and these men will never have to struggle to attain their purity. But perhaps if there is the one in a million man who is high value but sexually disciplined – he could teach men how to manage and redirect sexual impulses.

Nehemiah 3 – Legacy of the Nobles

What will be your entry in the books of history?

Now perhaps it’s a silly question because most people will be forgotten in the annals of history. And there’s nothing wrong with that. And a thousand years, should the world still stand, nothing we do here will matter, outside of how we acted in relation to our God.

However, on the off chance that there is one small line said about you in a book of history, wouldn’t you want that to be a positive note? Or would you even care?

I’m not saying there’s a right or wrong answer. Some of the more old-school style thinkers would want you to establish your name throughout history through assorted virtuous actions. And that’s fine and good, just remember that the only problem with the legacy is that you’re dead.

The only point of establishing a legacy is to alleviate the guilt you feel in the present for not leaving one. People feel negatively while they are alive about how they will be viewed when they are dead.

In that sense, it almost seems like a little bit too much to worry about during our brief lifetime.

However, just to learn a lesson from history, if there were to be a note written about you, it would be likely that you wouldn’t want it to be a negative one.

Well, there was a negative note left about the Nobles in the days of Nehemiah. The Bible takes a valuable line to let us know that the Nobles did not put their shoulders to the work of the Lord.

There was work to be done for good, and they chose not to do it. And that choice of action Echoes throughout history.

It’s true even today, as we are very aware of people who would rather not work and do those things they know they must do. [But truly, the majority of us would ‘rather not work’ if we had the choicebut we have a duty to live out and it involves work]. And we know this is especially true when it comes to nobility. Particularly nobility that has not earned their nobility, but has had it handed down from generations.

People who earn their power and wealth are generally much different than those who have it handed down to them. It’s honorable to build yourself up power and wealth in this world. And don’t let anyone tell you you can’t be a Christian and be successful and wealthy because you can.

Just make sure that while you’re successful and wealthy, you still take a little time to put your shoulder to the work of the Lord. 

Continue Reading: Hard Work is not painful work.

Next to them the Tekoites made repairs; but their nobles did not put their shoulders to the work of their Lord”.

Nehemiah 3:5

The Bible takes great care in Nehemiah 3 to tell us about everyone who is working in the city of Jerusalem, In this instance concerning the walls that were broken down. But in all the examples of people who worked, to repair, defend, and rebuild that city of Jerusalem, we have the lesson that the Nobles did not put their shoulders to the work of the Lord.

What a shameful Legacy to leave. And in their defense, they are dead. They could probably care less about their legacy. With some of them enjoying their reward and some suffering punishment, as is the normal delineation of human beings in the afterlife. But I would suppose that even those who are enjoying their reward would prefer to go back and have this element of their history blotted out. 

A legacy of laziness is not the name that anyone would want to leave on this earth after they die. But it’s the name that the Nobles of Nehemiah 3 left.

If you have an opportunity to put your shoulders to the work of the lord, do it, even if it’s in a small, seemingly insignificant way.

But beyond that, do not forget to hold fast to your daily disciplines: reading the scriptures [try Nehemiah 3], praying, and obeying the statutes and Commandments of God. Holding the line of discipline against a culture of worldliness.

 Do not let your legacy be that of these men

Nehemiah 2:1-2 ~ Manage Your Presentation

You have to manage your presentation. The way you present yourself to others is key to your success. 

The only way to maintain a degree of control over the impression you deliver and the power you have is through your visual presentation. Your body language, your expressions, your verbal articulations. All other power maneuvers come down through this outlet. Presentation is the delivery mechanism by which you make your move in this world. 

This is a lesson you learn from the scripture as well. Nehemiah was a cupbearer for the king of the time. This is a highly trusted position, as one of Nehemiah’s roles would be to screen the king’s drink for poison. 

When working in the presence of the king, he always managed his presentation. You cannot have a bad day in front of the king. You cannot be negative in front of the king. Your very life may depend on the king’s emotional equilibrium, which will be affected by the way you present yourself. 

It was not until Nehemiah was aware of the condition of Jerusalem in Nehemiah 2:1-2 that he was unable to maintain a positive appearance in the presence of the king. In fact, look at what the scripture says.

And it came to pass in the month of Nisan, in the twentieth year of King Artaxerxes, when wine was before him, that I took the wine and gave it to the king. Now I had never been sad in his presence before. 2 Therefore the king said to me, “Why is your face sad, since you are not sick? This is nothing but sorrow of heart.””

Nehemiah 2:1-2

Look at what is recorded for us to learn. 

Nehemiah had never once been sad in the presence of the king. If you want an example of self-control this is it. Or if you want an example of managing your presentation in public appearance, this is also it.

Where do we go wrong when we interact with others? It’s when others can tell just by looking at us that we aren’t ourselves. It’s when we give away that we’re having a bad day by our facial expressions. I’m not saying that we can’t have bad days, stress, or difficulty. I’m saying we don’t let it show. If people can tell something is wrong with you just by looking at you, they are in a perfect position to manipulate you. The emotional man is the manipulated man. 

Nehemiah 2:1-2

It is the role of a man to suppress that type of behavior.  I know it’s no longer popular to say that men should do traditionally masculine things like manage their emotions, but as you well know as a reader of Spartan Christianity, I don’t really care what people find popular. A man has to manage his emotional state and, if he is having a bad day, return it to its original state of equilibrium as quickly as he can.

The man is the Bedrock of the family unit. If he’s unstable, the entire family unit’s unstable.

So even though he doesn’t have to be an emotionless robot [though I think he should manage his emotions as well] he does have the incredible responsibility of never letting the people he is leading [his family] know that he’s having a bad day. Men don’t get to have bad days. The crushing burdens of performance will beat a man down if he starts to show his bad days.

 Let’s learn our lesson from Nehemiah:  manage your presence in front of other people, and other leadership. If you’re working, never let your boss or customers know you’re having a bad day. You don’t get to have a bad day. Additionally, no one cares if you do have a bad day as a man. And in fact, if you act like you’re not having a bad day, it won’t take too long before you forget that you weren’t having a bad day, and that will be back to a neutral day, maybe even a good one.

But it doesn’t matter how it turns out. All that matters is how you act. Actions are everything. Emotions and intentions are nothing. Motivations or nothing. Don’t obsess yourself with how you’re feeling, obsess yourself with how you’re acting.

Manage your presence in front of the king. Don’t let anyone know that you’re having a Down day.

You are an actor on stage. And your mask is one of masculine self-control. The goal is to eventually replace that mask with truly integrated masculine self-control that has no choice but to leak out of you. But until that moment comes, act like a man. Even if you don’t feel like one, act like one. And by acting like one you’ll eventually feel like one. 

Progressively Overloading Personal Development

Last week we talked about progressive overload and its use in training for muscle hypertrophy. With that groundwork, you can better understand this week’s article: how to apply the principles of progressive overload to your personal development.

In developing yourself, you use many of the same tools that you would use in developing your body.

  • Tracking and measurement of Performance.
  • Precise Exercise Selection for precise results.
  • Emphasis on weak or lagging areas.
  • Application of the specificity principle.
  • Application of the overload principle.

Continual development of the self is key to everything in life. Whether improving your work performance, relationships, or social skills – all can be improved by progressively overloading these elements of yourself.

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I. Understanding Progressive Overload in Personal Development

A. Defining Progressive Overload

If you missed last week’s article, progressive overload is a key idea in physical training. It requires you to apply a stimulus that will activate growth of the body [overload], and continue to apply and increase that stimulus to maintain progress.

Your development must be progressive because what improves you today will be too easy to improve you tomorrow. This applies to weight training as well as personal development. Addressing your basic weaknesses in socialization will require some basic tools. But as you become advanced, those same tools will be insufficient for allowing you to progress even further.

What pushes you beyond your zone of comfort as a beginner may be a warmup for you as an advanced person, both as a lifter and as a charismatic [or whatever/whoever you are trying to become]. 

B. Establishing a Baseline

The process of improvement always begins with an analysis of where you are right now. You cannot get better if you do not know where you are currently. 

When an athlete sits down and writes down the primary demands and requirements of his sport, this is called a “Need’s Analysis”. And it is an excellent way to articulate the basic necessities of your sport. 

The same applies to your life and personal development. What are those basic, intermediate, and advanced skills that you need as a human being? 

Write these down.

What do you need to do to be able to function in society, succeed in society, and thrive in society [novice, intermediate, and advanced categories]?

If you are going to improve, you have to be self-aware and self-critical. Not to a pathological degree, but no one ever improves by pretending they have no faults.  

Life Skills

* Time management and organization
* Developing a growth mindset
* Basic problem-solving and decision-making skills.
* Effective communication skills (listening, speaking, and writing)
* Financial literacy and budgeting
* Self-awareness and emotional intelligence
* Goal setting and planning
* Health Discipline (exercise, nutrition, sleep)
* Stress management and resilience
* Adaptability and openness to learning
* Self-Discipline (push yourself when you don’t want to)

Business Skills

* Basic understanding of business ethics and professionalism
* Familiarity with common business terminologies and concepts
* Work Ethic
* Basic customer service skills
* Basic project management skills
* Basic knowledge of marketing principles
* Basic financial analysis and budgeting
* Basic problem-solving skills in a professional context
* Understanding workplace etiquette and teamwork
* Basic networking and relationship-building skills

Relationship Skills

* Active listening Eye contact mastery
* Body LanguageConfrontation and conflict resolution 
* Building and maintaining trust in relationships
* Effective communication skills in relationships
* Showing appreciation and gratitude
* Setting boundaries
* Developing and nurturing friendships
* Negotiation and compromise skills
* Understanding and navigating emotions in relationships
* Developing empathy and understanding others’ perspectives

Spiritual Skills

* Mastering daily Bible reading
* Showing up to church despite how you feel
* Interacting with other Christians in positive ways
* Being uplifting
* Developing a consistent prayer life
* Waging perpetual war again sin
* Developing an accurate understanding of the Bible
* Attending a doctrinally correct church
* Obeying the Gospel through the process of salvation
These are just a few examples, but you can see how you can easily list out skills that you need to be able to survive in the world.

Then split these into categories like novice, intermediate, and advanced that are unique to you. You will be advanced in some skills but novice in others. And no two people will be alike. 

This is a critical chance for you to take an honest look at your weaknesses, write them down and analyze them from a third-person perspective, and then actually make some improvements. 

II. Identifying Areas for Progress in Personal Development


A. Self-Assessment:

Assessing yourself starts with honesty and humility. Most people live their entire lives ignoring their flaws and weaknesses. This is understandable because it is painful to look at our flaws and weaknesses at first. But avoiding this responsibility robs most people of the level of self-development they could otherwise achieve. 

With the groundwork of humility and honey laid, you need to identify your goals. This will be based on a combination of your current levels of development and where you want to go and how you want to improve. 

If your social skills are lagging, then you need to set some goals for how you are going to improve.

What do people with strong social skills do?

  • They make consistent eye contact during a conversation
  • They add to the conversation
  • They are funny
  • They stay engaged and off their phone

Look at people you admire who have the skills you want to develop and identify what it is that makes them so good at socializing. While studying them, see what you can model. What can you attempt to copy? 

B. Setting Challenging Yet Attainable Goals

Your goals have to be crystal clear. They have to be attainable, yet demanding in order to achieve. 

Some promote the SMART framework for goal setting (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant/Realistic, Time-bound) in personal development.

This works for some while others have a hard time with it. You have to decide what will work for you. 

But the specificity of goals is critical. You will not get better at a thing without specifically working to get better at it. Just like the biceps will not grow from sets of squats, so also social skills do not improve from sets of “work ethic” for example. 

III. Implementing Progressive Overload Strategies


A. Expanding Knowledge and Skills

For growth to be continued there must be a persistent demand placed upon them. And this demand must progress on a linear basis. 

There has never been more free information available than what you can find on YouTube.

You can learn social skills from Charisma on Command.
Or You can Learn about Discipline from Jocko Willink and the Jocko Podcast.
You can Learn about neuroscience from College lectures or from Andrew Huberman.

And the list goes on forever. Whatever it is you want to learn, or whatever you want to get better at, you can find people teaching it online – and they give away much of their material for free! 

There are also courses and workshops offered around you. You can find these with a simple Google search.

Do you want to get better at public speaking? See if your city has a local chapter of Toastmasters.
Want to learn self-defense, find a jui-jitsu dojo in your town.
Some colleges offer free workshops and seminars with speakers. 

The only limit in finding ways to improve yourself is your own ability to think creatively and find out where the people with the information are. Find them, then learn from them, and place progressively greater challenges on yourself to improve. 

B. Cultivating Resilience and Mental Strength

The ability to recover quickly from failure and get back to work is a skill that will propel you to success. Because if the average Joe writhes around in his state of failure while you get back on the horse immediately, you are already that much farther ahead of him.

And this is certainly how most people live. We hit difficulty or failure and then just wallow in it. We get down in the dumps and invite our negative emotional state in for dinner. Some might say this is a normal part of processing a negative event, but I would argue that this action makes one adverse event far worse than it should have been. Something that could have been processed and ended is now a long-term emotional event. 

Emotions exist to motivate action. We are not supposed to feel negative and then just sit there in a negative state. We are supposed to take action. Take some steps in the direction of our goals. Get back on the horse and we find that the emotion will resolve. It is just there to get us to press on a little more. 

So when you hit failure, get excited. Know that it is one of the pathways for growth. And it is a pathway that so many people rarely experience because they hide from it. 

The average person spends their whole life hiding from failure. As a result, they never attempt anything worth accomplishing. They are so afraid to fail that it prevents them from ever even attempting. This keeps them in a  perpetual state of mediocrity in all of their life endeavors.

And as sad as this is, it presents you with a potent opportunity. You can get ahead of the vast majority of people in life simply by building a different mindset, taking different actions, and not shrinking back from failure when it appears. 

Everyone fails – do not be the loser who stays down when he fails. 

IV. Monitoring and Adjusting


A. Tracking Progress

Monitor progress towards your goal. Just like you might keep a training journal, it may be worthwhile to try keeping a personal development journal. 

This journal should have your primary goals as well as notes and field reports tracking your progress. 

If you are working on socialization, you can track how many people you approached to talk to at church. Record your performance and your emotional state before, during, and after the event. This will serve to teach you that you can act in accordance with your goals regardless of how you are feeling emotionally at any given time. This is a great lesson. You have to know that you can act with discipline and push yourself to do anything you want despite your emotional state at the time. 

Learn that and you will be ahead of the world. 

B. Adjusting the Load

It is critical that as you progress, you increase the demand you are placing on yourself. If you push yourself to talk to 5 people at church, at some point it needs to become 6. Or the conversation needs to progress to a deeper level. Whatever it is, you have to increase the difficulty or volume of what you are doing. That makes your development progressive. 

As you progress, you may find that some goals no longer suit your purpose. Maybe you realize that you will never be able to be at a master level in some skill without a lifetime of work. Or perhaps your personal development in the social area caused you to find areas of weakness in other aspects of yourself. 

Whatever the case is, you are not married to your personal development plan. You can pivot, shift, and change all along the way. 

V. Overcoming Plateaus and Preventing Burnout


A. Recognizing Plateaus

Just like in physical training, as you progress, you will hit areas of stagnation, places where improvement becomes slow or impossible. This is not a problem, just a part of the process. 

The first thing to do when hitting a plateau is to keep cool and keep your wits about you. Most people throw in the towel right here. That’s right, at the very first hint of weakness, they give up. While sad, it means that all you have to do is not give up to ahead of the average person. 

Next, examine your current plan. When you hit plateaus in the gym you can switch out exercises, rep schemes, splits, etc. What can you adjust or switch out in your personal development plan? If the only socialization you get is at church, and you continue to interact with the same people over and over again, that is the equivalent of doing the same exercises, with the same rep range, with the same intensity for months on end. Of course that will get a little stale and slow your progress.

Maybe you can add some additional socialization. You can attempt to talk to people in public (I know, the horror) or at events or shops. You have to introduce some form of novelty to your plan to break the monotony and allow for continued improvement in new dynamic situations. 

Look at those you are modeling and see what they do in different situations. Look to them to develop advanced skills. 

B. Avoiding Burnout:

Anyone who has attempted to improve themselves over a long enough time will tell you that there are moments when they want to quit the entire thing. They are not making progress on any fronts, they are frustrated, and they want to go back to the way they were.

When this happens in exercise, we introduce a deload, where we reduce volume, load, intensity, or a combination of any and all of these in order to allow the body to recover and potentiate the potential for gains. 

In personal development, you can do this by simply backing off the advanced versions of skills and going down to a baseline. 

What level of performance can you consistently generate without conscious effort?

The benefit of personal development is that at some point, your skills at a specific level will be able to be automated. You behave better automatically. 

Whatever that level is for you, back off your personal development to this level. Instead of quitting completely, just deload to a level that is manageable without you having to think. 

This will allow you to not give up completely on your habits, but also give yourself a break from what you are doing. 

Incorporate these strategies for applying progressive overload to your personal development and you will be ahead of the crowd. 

Progressive Overload in Strength Training

Progressive overload is a term used in training to describe the controlled addition of work to your training.

Progressive overload is a key element for increasing strength and building muscle. It is one of the most supported pathways for muscle growth when applied scientifically.

For physical training to be productive, it must be systematic and methodical. The structure allows us to measure, track and analyze our progress or lack thereof with precision.

I. Understanding Progressive Overload in Strength Training

A. Defining Progressive Overload

The core concept of progressive overload in strength training is to gradually increase the demands on the musculoskeletal system to continually make gains in muscle size, strength, and sometimes endurance. This involves increasing the intensity, weight, frequency, number of repetitions, and number of sets in your strength training routine over time. By doing so, you challenge your body and allow your musculoskeletal system to get stronger.

The principle of progressive overload suggests that the continual increase in the total workload during training sessions will stimulate muscle growth and strength gain by muscle hypertrophy.

Progressive overload helps you avoid plateaus. When your body adapts to the type of exercise you’re doing, you may stop seeing results.

By changing up your workouts and adding additional tension to your muscles, you can keep your muscles challenged and get stronger. Progressions are a continuum that is regulated based on client performance, injury avoidance, and goals.

B. Adaptation and Muscle Hypertrophy:

Muscle adaptation and hypertrophy are the physiological processes that occur in response to progressive overload in strength training.

Hypertrophy refers to the increase in muscle size associated with long-term resistance training.

The process of hypertrophy is a result of subcellular changes within the muscle, including an increase in the size of individual muscle fibers. The following are the subcellular changes that occur in muscle adaptation and hypertrophy:

1 – Increase in the cross-sectional area of the muscle: With resistance training, various signaling mechanisms are activated, and these initiate the creation of new proteins and the enlargement of muscle fibers and muscle cell size leading to hypertrophy.

Muscles get bigger when you train them – this is the most apparent training adaptation.

2 – Changes in muscle architecture: The muscle fibers become more organized and aligned in the direction of force production, which improves the efficiency of force transmission.

3 – Increase in the number of myofibrils: Myofibrils are the contractile units of muscle fibers, and an increase in their number leads to an increase in the force-generating capacity of the muscle.

4 – Increase in the number of nuclei: The number of nuclei in muscle fibers increases with hypertrophy, which allows for greater protein synthesis and muscle growth. The nuclei of muscle cells are theorized to be like “managers” of a certain area within muscle cells. The more nuclei you have, the more managers you have, and the more muscle mass you can manage.

5 – Increase in muscle fiber size: The size of individual muscle fibers increases with hypertrophy, which leads to an increase in muscle mass and strength.
It is important to note that the number of muscle fibers you have is established by birth and remains fixed throughout the rest of your life.

Therefore, the hypertrophy adaptations seen with resistance training are a result of subcellular changes within the muscle. Any evidence of muscle fiber splitting (referred to as hyperplasia), as has been described in animal studies, is presently inconclusive with human subject research, but conceivably possible.

Progressive overload triggers the physiological processes of muscle adaptation and hypertrophy by placing a greater demand on the musculoskeletal system during training.

The following are the ways in which progressive overload, and strength training in general, triggers these processes:

1 – Increased mechanical tension: Progressive overload increases the mechanical tension on the muscle fibers, which stimulates the production of new proteins and the enlargement of muscle fibers. This increase in mechanical tension is achieved by lifting heavier weights, increasing the number of repetitions, or doing your repetitions more quickly.

2 – Increased metabolic stress: Progressive overload also increases metabolic stress on the muscle fibers, which leads to an increase in the production of growth factors and hormones that promote muscle growth and hypertrophy. This increase in metabolic stress is achieved by performing exercises with shorter rest periods, higher repetitions, or slower tempos.

3 – Muscle damage: Progressive overload can also cause muscle damage, which triggers the repair and growth of muscle fibers. This muscle damage is achieved by performing exercises with eccentric contractions or by using new exercises that target different muscle fibers.

Progressive overload not only stimulates muscle hypertrophy but also stimulates the development of stronger and denser bones, ligaments, tendons, and cartilage.

II. Implementing Progressive Overload Strategies:

A. Increasing Resistance:

Resistance should be gradually increased over time. It is only one component of progressively overloading your workouts. And adding resistance is the most simple to understand, you simply add a small amount of weight from one session to the next.

Some practitioners use a percentage of weight, attempting to add anywhere from 2.5-10% of the load per week. So if you were using 100 lbs for a squat on week one, during week two you would use 102.5-110 lbs while keeping sets and reps equal. If you reduce reps or set the workload effectively evens out and no overload is applied.

If the performance of sets and reps or technique of exercise breaks down on the addition of weight, then regress the weight back to what you were using previously. Never allow your ego to trick you into using more weight than you can complete with good form.

Progression Approaches

Linear Progression: Linear progression is the most common approach to progressive overload. It involves adding the same amount of weight to the load lifted each session. For example, if you’re squatting 100 pounds for three sets of eight reps, you would add 5 pounds to the bar for the next session. This approach is suitable for beginners who are still making rapid progress in their strength training. However, as you become more advanced, linear progression may become too difficult to sustain.

Double Progression: Double progression involves increasing the weight and the number of repetitions over time. For example, if you’re doing three sets of eight reps with 100 pounds, you would increase the weight to 105 pounds for the next session and aim to complete three sets of eight reps again. Once you can complete three sets of eight reps with 105 pounds, you would increase the weight to 110 pounds and repeat the process. This approach is suitable for intermediate lifters who are no longer making rapid progress with linear progression.

Wave Loading: Wave loading involves alternating between heavy and light loads within the same workout1. For example, you might do three sets of five reps with a heavy weight, followed by three sets of ten reps with a lighter weight. This approach is suitable for advanced lifters who are looking to challenge their muscles in new ways and break through plateaus.

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B. Manipulating Repetitions and Sets:

Reps and sets are the ways you quantify the total work being done.

If you complete 1 pushup, that is 1 repetition of a pushup, and if you do 5 pushups, that is 5 reps, but you likely know that already.

If you do 2 rounds of 5 pushups, that is 2 sets.

Another simple way to progressively overload is to add sets or reps of the same exercises to your workouts. This will increase your weekly volume which is key for overloading and muscle growth.

Weekly Volume is simply your total sets multiplied by reps [Sets x reps], but many just track the total number of sets across a week.

The sets you should be counting are your working sets, which are the challenging sets that are done when you are finished with your warmup sets.

For example, if you are going to complete a bench press and your goal is to use 100 lbs, you start with 50 lbs for a few reps, then 75 lbs for a few reps, and then maybe a set at 90 lbs or you go straight to the 100 lb set. Either way, those warmup sets do not count in your total volume.

When you complete working sets, you should be training with no more than 3 reps in the tank for most working sets. Training too far from failure will not activate the muscle growth response.

Most muscles will grow with the application of 10-20 weekly working sets.
To add weekly volume, try just adding sets.

So if you complete a leg workout where you do 3 sets of squats and 3 sets of lunges, the following week try 4 sets of squats and 3 sets of lunges. A safe estimate is to try to add 1-2 sets per week to your total weekly volume.

Keep volume and intensity balanced week to week.

Intensity is how heavy you are training. Technically speaking, it is the percentage of your 1 rep maximum [1RM]. So if you can lift 100 lbs on a squat, 85 lbs would be 85% of your 1RM.

Note that the greater the intensity, the fewer repetitions you will be able to complete. And it seems to be the case that you need at least 5 repetitions to be effective for muscle hypertrophy, while you can get away with fewer reps if your goal is strength.

As long as you approach failure on your working sets, anywhere from 5-30 repetitions can effectively stimulate muscle growth.

Another tool for progressively overloading is to keep the sets the same, but attempt to increase the repetitions.

If you complete 3 sets of 10 squats and 3 sets of 10 lunges on week 1, attempt 3 sets of 12 reps on squats and 3 sets of 10 reps of lunges. Attempt to add repetitions to at least 1 of the sets. The more sets you can add reps to, the more potent the growth stimulus [to a point].

C. Adjusting Training Frequency

In order to stimulate muscle growth, muscles must be stimulated often. In this article when we have used examples, we often seem to refer to one workout per week. But most muscles can easily be trained 2x per week, if not more.

How much each muscle can be trained varies from person to person, but will be somewhere around 2-6 times per week.

Muscles that are larger and more fatiguing to train like legs will be difficult to train often and may benefit from just 2 weekly exercise sessions. While smaller muscles like biceps or side deltoids are not fatiguing to the system to train, and can often be trained more frequently than larger muscles, benefitting from 3 or 4 up to even 6 weekly sessions.

A gradual increase in training frequency can help stimulate muscle hypertrophy.

When you first start training, your muscles will be sore for quite some time after each workout. This is called delayed-onset muscle soreness [DOMS] which shows up 24-48 hours after training.

This soreness will make it difficult, if not impossible, for a novice lifter to train muscles more than 2 times per week – the muscle will simply be too painful to train and may, in fact, not be fully recovered from the previous training session. But as the lifter gins experience, and muscles become adapted to levels of training, the DOMS effect will be greatly reduced and it will be easier to train muscles more frequently.

A workout that might leave a novice lifter sore in the chest for 5 days might only keep an intermediate or advanced lifter sore for 2-3 days, allowing the intermediate to the advanced lifter to train more frequently and more comfortably.

Each person will have different speeds of recovery. You have to experiment and see how long it takes each of your muscles to feel recovered and ready to train again – which generally means they are either not sore or mostly not sore.

Start with the smallest frequency of 1-2 times per week when training each muscle group. then slowly add training to each muscle as your recovery allows.

Novice lifters should also include frequent rest days, placing a rest day between each training session, or completing 2 training days, then having a day off and repeating. Pay attention to your body – it will tell you if you are overdoing it.

III. Tracking and Progressing:

A. Keeping a Training Journal:

One of the simplest ways to track progress, volume, and intensity is by the use of a training journal. Simply write out your workouts including exercises, sets, and reps.

Using any notebook you like, write out your exercises first. Decide how many working sets of each exercise you will perform, and how close to failure you will train [how many reps will you “leave in the tank” – remember this should be no more than 3 usually]. Then as you complete sets, write down the weight used and the number of repetitions completed.

Then just repeat this process from workout to workout. You can then track your progress. As you look at your notebook, ask yourself:

  1. Am I increasing the sets I am completing week to week?
  2. Am I increasing the reps I am completing in each exercise?
  3. Am I able to increase the weight I am using in each exercise?
  4. Is my progress in an upward linear trajectory or is my performance going down [if performance goes down for a few workouts, we can consider a deload].
  5. Am I feeling recovered in my system? How are my overall fatigue levels?

The answers to the questions will help you know if you are progressing, hitting a plateau, or need to take some additional recovery time.

B. Monitoring Performance Indicators:

Performance indicators are measurements used to track progress and guide progression in strength training. Here are some common performance indicators used in strength training:

One-Rep Max (1RM): 1RM is the maximum amount of weight you can lift for one repetition of a given exercise. It is a useful performance indicator because it allows you to track your progress over time and adjust your training accordingly. While it is not always safe or necessary to load up an exercise with the maximum weight you can use, there are plenty of online calculators that allow you to estimate a 1RM based on a 5RM or 10RM. This will allow you to know if you are progressing without overloading the system.

I have nothing against 1RM lifts, but we should all appreciate the risk of these lifts, and attempt them only sparingly as a result.

Time Under Tension (TUT): TUT is the amount of time your muscles are under tension during an exercise. It is a useful performance indicator because it allows you to track the intensity of your workouts and adjust your training accordingly. A simple way to monitor this is through prescribed lifting tempos, such as 2 seconds of lifting the weight [concentric contraction] followed by 2 seconds of lowering the weight [eccentric contraction]. So not counting the pause at the bottom or top of each rep, each would have about 4 seconds of TUT. This metric is perhaps not as vital as simple volume tracking, but it can provide information for some lifters. My recommendation would be to keep lifting tempos similar or the same for exercises from week to week. This will keep your assessment of your work volume fairly consistent.

Training Volume: Training volume is the total amount of weight lifted during a workout. It is a useful performance indicator because it allows you to track your progress over time and adjust your training accordingly. We have mentioned this before, but it is the simplest measure to track and possibly the most important for the goals of muscle growth.

These performance indicators can guide progression and track improvements in strength training in the following ways:

Guide Progression: Performance indicators can guide progression by helping you determine the appropriate weight, sets, and repetitions for each exercise. For example, if you know your 1RM for a particular exercise, you can use that information to determine the appropriate weight to use for each set. By knowing your total weekly volume, you can add sets and reps on a weekly basis.

Track Improvements: Performance indicators can track improvements by allowing you to compare your current performance to your previous performance. For example, if you know your reps for a particular exercise, you can compare your current reps to your previous reps to see if you have improved.

C. Periodization and Deloading:

Periodization is a training approach that involves manipulating training variables over time to achieve specific goals. In hypertrophy training, periodization is used to optimize muscle growth and strength gains by varying the intensity, volume, and frequency of training. Here are some common periodization models used in hypertrophy training:

Linear Periodization: Linear periodization involves dividing training into phases, with each phase focusing on a specific training goal. The most common phases in linear periodization are hypertrophy, strength, power, and transition. This approach involves gradually increasing the intensity and decreasing the volume of training over time. Linear periodization is suitable for beginners and intermediate lifters who are looking to make steady progress in their training.

Undulating Periodization: Undulating periodization involves varying the intensity and volume of training within each workout or week. This approach involves alternating between high-intensity, low-volume workouts, and low-intensity, high-volume workouts. Undulating periodization is suitable for advanced lifters who are looking to challenge their muscles in new ways and break through plateaus.

Reverse Linear Periodization: Reverse linear periodization involves starting with high-intensity, low-volume workouts and gradually decreasing the intensity and increasing the volume of training over time. This approach is suitable for endurance athletes who are looking to improve their muscular endurance.

Deloading

After a few weeks [4-6] of hypertrophy training where sets, reps, and/or weight were added from session to session, you will being to experience some fatigue. This fatigue will begin to accumulate. this is normal, but at some point, it will accumulate until it negatively impacts performance.

When you can no longer make progressions week to week and your performance starts to worsen, it is time for a deload.

A deload is a planned reduction in training. It can be completed by the following:

1 – Reducing the weight of exercises while performing the same volume [sets and reps] for 1 week.
2 – Reducing sets by half [if you complete 20 sets per week for a muscle group, cut it to 10 sets for a week. Do this for all muscle groups].
3 – Reducing exercises by as much as half for 1 week.
4 – Take the week off.

Each of these are ways to complete a deload. This deload should last a week. This is enough time to reduce systemic fatigue and allows for a reintroduction of an overloading stimulus.

IV. Avoiding Plateaus and Overcoming Challenges

A. Plateau Recognition

When your performance stops increasing week to week, this is a plate. Many people stop progressing and just stay there for months and years. They make no attempt to increase training intensity, add volume, or progress in any way. But you, as an intelligent lifter, know there are other ways to progress.

As before, if your performance is decreasing, you may need a deload. But even with simple plateaus a deload may be enough to restart the progression.

If a deload is not necessary, consider adding sets or exercises to your workout. Consider training closer to failure with fewer reps in reserve [fewer reps in the tank]. Also, consider changing up your exercises. After a few weeks, the same exercises can start to become stale. Switch up exercises while maintaining focus on the target muscles [trade flat barbell bench press with incline dumbbell bench press, for example].

B. Technique Refinement

Good technique is critical for accurate progression and risk management. There will always be some innate danger in weight training, but there is no need to compound it without additional benefit by using improper technique.

When you complete a new exercise or one you are unsure about, it is worth watching demonstration videos or getting help from a physical therapist or personal trainer to perfect form.

While not all bad technique will lead to injury, it should be the goal of a lifter to progressively refine his technique.

Good form allows us to guarantee that we are loading the target muscle and getting a growth stimulus to those muscles. The improper form could mean that the muscles we think we are targeting are not getting any of the real growth stimuli. These muscles then become lagging groups which are underdeveloped compared to our other more developed muscle groups. We may not understand why this is happening, but it is usually because we are not training the muscles we think we are.

Perfect technique by learning online. And then use your judgment to determine if the muscles are actually being trained.

The best way to do this is to complete an exercise and then ask yourself if you can feel a ton of tension in the target muscle. If you are doing bicep curls and your bicep feels like it is on fire, or it is straining against the weight, this is good. But if you are doing bicep curls and you feel like your forearms are doing most of the work and you aren’t really feeling anything in your biceps, then the forearms are likely getting the growth stimulus while the biceps are missing out.

You must then tweak your form to keep the exercise safe but shift the focus onto the target muscles. With bicep curls this can be done by slightly extending the wrist, or just switching out the exercise completely with one you feel more in the biceps.

C. Mental Resilience and Motivation

Motivation: Motivation is another essential psychological component of hypertrophy training. Staying motivated can help you stick to your training program and achieve your goals.

Discipline: Discipline is also an essential psychological component of hypertrophy training. Staying disciplined can help you stick to your training program, even when you don’t feel like it.

Positive mindset: A positive mindset is essential for success in hypertrophy training. Focusing on the positive aspects of your training, such as progress and improvements, can help you stay motivated and committed to your goals. Progress will not always be linear. There will be times of slow progress, obstacles, injuries, and other hurdles to overcome. The ability to orient your mind to the positive will be vital to your sustained progress.

Mental toughness: Mental toughness is another essential psychological component of hypertrophy training. Developing mental toughness can help you push through challenging workouts and overcome obstacles in your training. The interesting this about physical training is that it both requires mental toughness and develops it simultaneously. When you push yourself just slightly beyond what you thought you were capable of, you deposit a nugget of confidence in your personal bank and develop a little more mental toughness. And this toughness will translate to other aspects of life.

V. Injury Prevention and Recovery:

A. Prioritizing Rest and Recovery

Rest and recovery are significant in preventing injuries in hypertrophy training, along with the importance of listening to your body and incorporating adequate rest days:

Muscle Repair and Growth: During hypertrophy training, you subject your muscles to intense stress and resistance, causing microscopic damage to muscle fibers. Rest days allow your body to repair and rebuild these damaged muscle fibers, leading to muscle growth and adaptation. Without sufficient rest, this repair process can be compromised, increasing the risk of overuse injuries.

Central Nervous System (CNS) Recovery: Hypertrophy training involves high-intensity exercises that stress the central nervous system. Rest and recovery days give your CNS a chance to recover and adapt to the training stimulus. Ignoring the need for rest can lead to CNS fatigue, which can impair performance, and coordination, and increase the risk of injuries.

Injury Prevention: Overtraining and insufficient rest can lead to chronic fatigue and overuse injuries. By incorporating rest days, you allow your body to recover, reducing the risk of muscular imbalances, joint stress, and connective tissue injuries. Rest also helps prevent mental and physical burnout, which can impact motivation and adherence to training.

Hormonal Balance: Adequate rest plays a role in maintaining hormonal balance. Hormones like testosterone, growth hormone, and cortisol play crucial roles in muscle growth, repair, and recovery. Sleep and restful periods help regulate these hormones, optimizing muscle-building processes and reducing the risk of hormonal imbalances that could lead to injuries or hinder progress.

Listening to Your Body: Every individual responds differently to training stress, and it’s important to listen to your body’s signals. Pain, excessive fatigue, decreased performance, and persistent muscle soreness are signs that your body needs rest. Ignoring these signals and pushing through can lead to overtraining, compromised immune function, and increased susceptibility to injuries.

B. Warm-up and Injury Prevention Exercises

Warming up is an often neglected component of physical training of any kind. We pay for this later in life, but give no thought to warming up while we are young.

In hypertrophy training, a simple warmup could be just completing the exercise with a lighter weight, slower repetitions, and perfect form to fire up the muscles. I would say this is an excellent way to prepare the body for a workload.

Warmups have the following benefits:

Increased Blood Flow and Muscle Temperature: Warm-up routines increase blood flow to the muscles, delivering oxygen and nutrients while removing waste products. This helps raise muscle temperature, making the tissues more pliable and less prone to injury. It also improves the efficiency of muscle contractions during the workout. Examples of warm-up exercises include jogging, cycling, or rowing for 5-10 minutes.

Improved Joint Mobility and Range of Motion: Mobility exercises enhance joint mobility and increase the range of motion around the joints. This allows for more efficient movement patterns during exercises and reduces the risk of compensations that can lead to injuries. Examples of mobility exercises include leg swings, arm circles, hip rotations, and shoulder dislocations.

Activation of Stabilizer Muscles: Warm-up routines and mobility exercises help activate and engage stabilizer muscles, which are important for maintaining proper form and stability during exercises. By targeting these muscles, you improve joint stability and reduce the risk of imbalances and injuries. Examples of exercises that activate stabilizer muscles include planks, glute bridges, and bird-dogs.

Injury Prevention Exercises for Different Muscle Groups

Upper Body: Rotator cuff exercises help strengthen the muscles around the shoulder joint, reducing the risk of shoulder injuries. Examples include external and internal rotations with resistance bands or light dumbbells.

Lower Body: Glute activation exercises help improve hip stability and prevent injuries, such as knee and lower back pain. Examples include glute bridges, clamshells, and lateral band walks.

Core: Core stabilization exercises target the muscles that support the spine and pelvis, reducing the risk of lower back injuries. Examples include planks, Russian twists, and bird-dogs.

Legs: Hamstring exercises help prevent strains and imbalances in the posterior chain. Examples include Romanian deadlifts, Swiss ball hamstring curls, and single-leg Romanian deadlifts.

Shoulders: Scapular stabilization exercises strengthen the muscles that stabilize the shoulder blades, reducing the risk of shoulder injuries. Examples include scapular retractions, face pulls, and prone Y-T-W-I exercises.

Conclusion

Follow these basic guidelines and you understand more than most people do about physical training, progressive overload, and the development of the body through hypertrophy.

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