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“If you Want to Know What God Thinks About Money…”

“If you want to know what God thinks about money…Just look at who He gives it to.”

Do you mean like Job (Job 1), Abraham (Genesis 13:2), Isaac (Genesis 26), Jabob (Genesis 30), and Solomon (1 Kings 10:23)?

This statement comes from yet another one of the misconceptions that religious people have about wealth and money in general. But this ignorance is not limited to the religious. In fact, if someone does not have a lot of money, you can expect them to make statements like this. It is usually a symptom of envy. These people have no wealth, so the best they can do is berate those who do.

We are already aware of the fact that many religious people will try to conflate virtue and poverty by suggesting that the reason they are poor and not rich is because they are “spiritually rich” and “not materialistic or greedy.

As has been previously stated, it is extremely judgmental to suggest that just because someone is wealthy, then they are automatically materialistic or greedy. Wealth is just a numerical representation of how much value one has provided to society. A specific level of wealth is not equal to greed; a person’s attitude about wealth is what determines greed. There are plenty of greedy poor people and generous, wealthy religious people.

Jesus clearly taught that it is easy for people to become materialistic (Matthew 19:24), but the reason we have the old testament examples of Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Job, and Solomon is to show that it is possible to be righteous and rich at the same time. That does not mean anyone is guaranteed wealth in life, but it is available for them if they are willing to work for it.

If you really want to know what God thinks about money, look at who He doesn’t give it to.

He does not give it those who whose faith would be damaged by it. This is the striking lesson of those old testament examples. These are men who not only were righteous, but who managed to be righteous while being incredibly wealthy. That is not the lesson you hear very often in the church.

“But I thought if you had any money it means you were focused on the things of this world. How is this possible?”

Abraham, the father of the faithful, was a man who had such great spiritual wealth that God deemed him worthy of managing great physical wealth. Many religious people have improper attitudes about money. the second they come into any kind of wealth they think improperly about it. If you are going to think right about God, it begins with thinking right about money. The two are not unrelated.

We need money to survive, but we are required to be separate from this world.

Developing a level of mental detachment from possessions is key. We have to be grateful for what we are given and yet be unattached to it. Even secular men like the stoics practiced similar mental exercises.

You must avoid the class warfare that the church has managed to drag itself into. Poor people despise the rich thinking they are worldly. Some of the rich look down on the poor for being lazy (which some of them are). What you must do is be completely unattached to these philosophies. Recognize money for what it is: a useful tool and a metric of value. Your worth to the marketplace is determined by your income. Not your value as a person or as a creation of God. But your value to society is what determines your income. If you do not like your income, you need to adjust how society values you.

God thinks that money is a tool and a part of life.

There is no way around this fact. The Bible teaches more lessons about money than about any other subject matter. So if you want to know what God thinks about something, you might want to see what He has said. If His Word is gospel, you might consider listening to it.

If you want to know what God thinks about money, read the Bible.

But that is something that many Christians, including many of the poor are not doing. Most of their time is occupied with keeping up with the secular interests of this world. Many Christians simply lack the basic Biblical knowledge necessary to allow them to think right about money. If you are in this habit, you need to break free of it.

If you wanted a masterclass on money management, look to the Proverbs. These passages contain so many timeless truths that even secular people use them. This may be the most marketable book of the Bible, because there are so many simple, easily applicable and non-ethereal teachings in it.

If you want to know what God thinks about money, then learn about money.

Too many Christians lack not only biblical knowledge but also financial knowledge. The financial education of the majority of people in the world is dismal. It is even worse than their biblical education. To better understand what God thinks about money you need to increase your financial education. you also need multiple sources of this.

If you typically listen to hyper-conservative thinkers (monetarily speaking) like Dave Ramsey, then expand your information intake slightly. You do not have to change your actions, just increase your knowledge. Ty Ramit Sethi who wrote the book, “I Will Teach You To Be Rich“. Also, there is Tony Robbins who wrote “Money: Master the Game“. And any of the Rich Dad Poor Dad series of books are fantastic. Each of these will expand your thinking.

Never allow yourself to be limited or bogged down by one single philosophy. You need to be able to shift between ideas. If you are too rigid in any endeavor in life, you risk being shattered.

Give these ideas a thought.

Make Everything an Exercise

Whatever you have to do, you have a choice. You can see it as a task that detracts from your life, or you can see it as a way to level up your stats in life

I – You have the choice to complain about each situation or make it into an exercise.

What you choose will determine your strength of character.

Everything tests you in some way. Learn how to develop skills from that test instead of being crushed by them.

From the small, petty annoyances of life to the massive, earth-shattering crises, everything in life gives you the opportunity to become more of a man.

A man is able to demonstrate strength by resisting the force of outside events and people.

He gives no foothold to any adversary.

But many life circumstances offer you the chance to not only resist but learn to use the power of those circumstances against them.

By making every life situation an exercise of some virtue, you can rapidly improve yourself.

And you go on the offensive.

You are hitting life instead of letting it hit you, and that offensive mentality gives you strength of mind.

Strength of mind leads to greater willpower and the ability to handle greater life responsibility.

Learn to use the power of life against it by making everything into an exercise. This simple shift in attitude will revolutionize your personal development.

II – Make It An Exercise

The first step is to simply decide to make your situation into an exercise.

It sounds overly simple, but simply deciding to improve yourself creates the level of awareness and concentration necessary to actually make improvements.

Sometimes a single decision is enough to create change.

It may not create the level of change that you want, but it will give you some degree of results instantly.

Let’s look at the overview of how you will change your life situations into exercises, then we will look at some basic examples.

Reframe It.
Be grateful for it.
Endure the discomfort of it.
Improve resilience.
Make it a Habit.
Reinvest the dividends.

1 – Reframe It

First, you need to shift from thinking negative to thinking positive.

If you are mentally framing a situation negatively, it will continue to be an annoyance to you forever. You will never be able to improve your ability to tolerate it and you will not increase the strength of your character.

You must first shift your thinking so that it promotes growth and improvement rather than stagnation or degradation.

Short circuit your thinking.

The instant you catch yourself complaining about something, reframe it.

Instead of thinking “I hate when this happens, this is the worst!”, think “This is an opportunity for me to train my patience”.

Whatever bit of your character you are trying to train at the moment [Patience, calmness etc.], reframing the situation in your mind will improve it.

This shift in attitude is foundational. It will provide you with at least 50% of the improvement that you will get.

The key to making something into an exercise is to think of it positively.

People can sometimes exercise with a negative mindset, but they will never get the results they truly wanted. They will always be substandard, mediocre, instead of making incremental progress towards the desirable character they want.

2 – Be Grateful for It

Learn to be thankful for every situation in life.

Every instance you encounter is an opportunity to train some ability.

Whether it be patience, strategy, or general emotional control, you have the opportunity to improve.

Gratitude will also help to tone down unproductive negative emotions.

As you know, I am all about harnessing the power of negative emotions. But if we are not harnessing that power and actually channeling towards some goal, then those negative emotions are wasteful.

And the negative nature of those emotions will cause us more harm than good.

So, learn how to tone down those emotions until you can take action and simply be grateful for the opportunity to train your character.

3 – Endure the Discomfort

No matter how much gratitude and reframing you do, you are still going to have to tolerate a certain degree of discomfort.

We understand this perfectly in physical exercise. If you want to make progress, you have to endure a certain amount of pain.

But by understanding that the discomfort leads to growth, we can endure the discomfort and even learn to enjoy it.

Marinade in the discomfort of certain situations.

Enjoy the exercise of your will and mind. You are building an unbeatable character.

Exercising your willpower this way will positively impact many other areas of your life. This conscious practice will produce non-conscious results in your normal life.

If you practice patience and emotional control consciously, you will reap the benefits in later situations without even thinking about it.

4 – Improve Resilience

Just as with physical exercise the tolerance for certain weights, reps or pain is increased. So also, your mental pain threshold is increased with training.

This allows you to tolerate more discomfort and recover even faster.

This resilience will be encouraging and will push you to develop even more strength o character and will.

It is a never-ending positive cycle of personal development.

5 – Make it a Habit

This exercise cannot work if you only do it once. You need to make mental exercising a habit.

You cannot go to the gym once and make progress, you need a degree of consistency.

So, you need to increase the odds that you will remember to make everything into an exercise so you can actually reap the benefits of it.

Put a notecard in your car or in a place you will see it regularly. On that notecard write “Everything is an Exercise”. Read that card whenever you are about to go into a situation that involves people.

It can be work, school, going to the store, dealing with your kids, or taking out the trash.

Any and every situation has the opportunity to be a character-building exercise if you have the openness of mind and willingness of attitude to make it happen.

6 – Reinvest the Dividends

You will want the results you gain in the exercises to spill over into the rest of your life without even thinking about it.

That is the whole point of this exercise.

Good character is the passive income of the mind.

By following the above steps, you will find that this one comes automatically. By intentionally training your patience, you become a more patient man.

And by concentrating on increasing your emotional control, you become a more stoic man.

Every exercise builds the mental muscle that will be usable in other situations. All you have to do is front-load the work.

And is that not the best type of work? The kind where you can invest time and energy upfront and reap the benefits for the rest of your life?

All you have to do is make everything into an exercise and invest a small amount of energy into maintaining the character you build.

III – Examples of annoyances to tolerate

Kids crying in the church.
Waiting in line
Dealing with people

Kids crying in the church

This is something that annoys me more than anything else.

It angers me beyond belief. Not that a baby would cry, but that the parents of the child are so stupid that they cannot realize their child is literally drowning out the speaker.

And they just sit there and let the baby scream for years.

This has been an annoyance for me for many years, but recently I have been able to turn even crying babies into exercises of patience and emotional control.

First, I become aware of my normal response when this situation would unfold. I noticed that when a baby started screaming and the parent did not take it out, my head instantly become hot and my heart rate increased.

I realized I wanted to limit these physical reactions and I could do so by controlling my mind. So now each Sunday I walk into the church and remember that there will likely be a screaming baby somewhere in the church today.

By simply being aware and preparing in advance for this situation I know angers me, I give myself the advantage.

Now all I have to do is control my response.

So, whenever the baby inevitably begins to fill the church with high frequency wailing, I take deep, diaphragmatic breaths, center my thoughts on peace and slowly turn my attention away from the situation.

This took some serious practice and still takes a lot of work, as it is very difficult to ignore something that literally causes ear pain.

And I do not always succeed with this exercise, I am still learning how to control my anger at parents who possess no self-awareness whatsoever.

But I have turned this annoyance into an exercise, a chance to build character and improve myself, and that makes it valuable.

Waiting in line

Waiting in line is another typical annoyance for many people. You have the option to pull out your phone, get angry, or you can turn this into a patience exercise.

Center your thoughts on the present moment. Control your emotions and breathe deeply to slow your heart rate and lower your blood pressure.

Once calm, sit back and just do some people watching.

See how other human beings behave and interact instead of being absorbed in your own world.

If you are waiting in line at the grocery store and are holding groceries by hand, use this as an opportunity to build some mental toughness. See how long you can hold your groceries without switching hands.

Everyone who has stood in line with a gallon of milk knows it gets heavy after a few minutes. Build the strength of mind by refusing to let go of the milk.

Seems silly, but you create a small win for the mentally tough person you are one day going to become.

Dealing with people

Nowhere in the world is there a better exercise than this one. And you have the opportunity to perform this exercise nearly every day.

Go into every social situation with the preparation of the mind. Expect people to behave poorly and plan to react intelligently.

Human beings are always going to act like human beings, so you need to prepare yourself for this.

I stopped getting angry at the behavior of others by adopting this simple mantra:

“I do not get angry at people for acting stupid. I get angry at myself for being stupid enough to expect people to act intelligently”.

By simply lowering your expectations of the behavior of others, you will increase your mental control exponentially.

Let go of always trying to control people.

You will make yourself miserable anytime you attempt to worry about things outside of your control. Control everything you can and worry about nothing else.

Observe people as if they were plants or animals. You do not get mad at a cactus for being a cactus or an armadillo for being an armadillo.

Those things simply are, and nothing can be done about it.

Instead, learn how to maneuver around people. Work the social setting to your favor by detaching from yourself and then interacting with others with an elevated mind. There is no need to stoop to their emotional level.

Maintain your calm and collected nature – this is a strength of men.

Watch people, learn their mannerisms and behaviors.

Figure out how you can manage them better or interact with them in a way that is productive and beneficial to all parties.

Never get angry at people for being people. Use everything as an exercise to strengthen your own will and power.

There is no limit to what can be turned into an exercise of the mind if you are willing to change your attitude about it.

This is how you make every negative into a positive.

By doing this you ensure that you can turn any situation into an opportunity to improve yourself.

If you do this for even one-tenth of your life situations, you will be ten times ahead of the average person.

Apply this technique today and improve yourself.

Conduct Yourselves Like Men.

Track Your Habits

Track your habits: If you were to ask any person about the things they do most consistently, they would probably give you generic answers. “I always eat healthily”. “I always work out consistently”. “My marriage is great, but don’t ask my wife”.

But if you ask these people how they know this, they have no answer. They have no evidence for their supposedly consistent lifestyle. And you will find they often follow up their answers with frustration. “I always eat healthily, but I don’t know why I can’t lose weight!” “I workout consistently, but I don’t know why I am not making progress”. “My marriage is great, but I don’t know why my wife never wants to have sex”.

The truth is that we are not nearly as consistent as we think we are when it comes to our habits.

Our consistency may be hit-and-miss, but as long as we are doing our habit a few times here and there we think we are hitting it consistently. When left to our own devices, we think we are demi-gods who never miss workouts, eat perfectly, have the best marriage, and work 20 hours per day. The truth is that we workout 2-3 times per week, and only one of those sessions is actually effortful. We eat one good meal in the morning, but every night we eat a buffet in our homes. Or we live in relative peace with our wife, but we simply are not engaging in enough masculine behavior to arouse her. And we work about 4 hours per day at max and then waste the rest of the day on frivolities.

The reason for this discrepancy between what we think we do and what we actually do is rooted in the fact that we have no system to measure our behaviors. We have no tool that keeps us grounded in reality when it comes to our habits. I am going to suggest a habit tracking system here that I have used for years. You can use any type that you want, but it is very important that you have this system. It keeps you honest, preventing you from thinking you are never missing workouts when you are regularly missing workouts.

First, get a blank notebook. It does not matter what kind. It could be college ruled, wide ruled, graph rule or you could get one of those small, lined journals. On each line, you are going to write the habits you think are valuable that you want to start. I would suggest that you write down several habits you already do consistently. This will give you some positive reinforcement when you can effortlessly put checks beside those habits. Hopefully one of those habits is daily Bible reading and prayer. Maybe after that, you put exercise and meditation. Then put journaling, visualization, guitar, or exercise in there.

If you are just starting some of these behaviors limit yourself to 3-6 habits. You do not want to burn out after a week or two and quit all your new behaviors before you reap the rewards from them. Start small, there is nothing wrong with placing small amounts of money in an investment account. These habits are the investment account for your life, and they will pay you dividends down the line.

Just track your habits and you will make progress.

Now that you have made a short list of the habits you already have and the ones you are going to start, write the date on the line below all of them. You are not going to write a date for every day, the point is to be able to get a generalized view of how you perform over time.

Now for the fun part, every time you complete a behavior, put a small check beside it. It seems silly, but that simple act of checking off a behavior is rewarding and will encourage you to check it off again. Now all you have to do is keep checking off behaviors. Lose yourself in the process of just checking off each habit each day. Learn to love the small steps and progress you are making towards your goals.

Here is another option for habit tracking you may be interested in:

On the rest of the paper below your check-off list, write down your observations about yourself or other personal development notes. Make notes about what you notice happens that causes you to miss a habit. What gets in the way of you completing your goals? Are the habits too big and need to be broken down into smaller more manageable chunks? Perhaps you started too many habits at once and need to put a few of them on hold. Is the time of day that you perform your habits so scattered that you cannot guarantee that you will complete your tasks?

The purpose of the notes is to analyze your own behavior and see where you are coming up short.

Where are the bottlenecks in your protocols? What is keeping you from making better progress in your life? The fastest way to improve is actually to eliminate a negative, not build a positive. By that I mean it is easier for us as humans to break something down than to build something up. So why not break down something negative before building something positive?

By analyzing when you make mistakes, you can prepare for next time. Learn to be a strategic thinker about the machine of your body. Learn what to do when your machine is not operating normally or the way you want it to. Write down ideas for how you can push yourself to complete your habits even on the days you do not want to. This ensures steady progress. It also helps you build great willpower. There is nothing more satisfying than finishing a task or completing your habits on the days when you were not feeling like doing anything. If you can override your own desire for comfort just for a moment, you are building the strength of character and of the mind.

As you track habits, you will notice that many of them become automatic.

This is good and the whole point of tracking them. You want to get to the point where you can complete your habits without needing willpower or motivation. Also be ready, because this is the point where other people will begin to compliment you for your “talent” or “gifts” even though you know your habits are the result of persistence. Anytime people want to excuse their own mediocrity, they complement the natural ability of others. Because if you are not gifted, the only thing separating them from you is a certain volume of work. They cannot blame their “lousy genetics” or lack of ability for mediocrity, they can only blame their unwillingness to put in the effort to be more than they currently are.

Never be angry at those people, in fact, be excited. They demonstrate by their very words that they will never be competition for you. They will always assume that the difference between them and the great men of this world is natural ability. Until they can correct their mind and accept that what separates them from the greats is simply work volume, they will forever be mediocre. They will forever live in your shadow, and you have nothing to fear from them in the marketplace.

All this started from simply tracking your habits. So start the habit of habit tracking and you will reap the rewards for it later in life.

Split From the Pack

High-value men do not run in packs. In a pack of wolves, there is one alpha who has access to all the females and calls all the shots. Only the alpha has the right to reproduce. The beta wolf is the second in command and takes the place of the alpha once he dies. Below the beta wolf are subordinates. These are the middle-class wolves who are one step above the lowest ranks. And lastly, there is the omega wolf, the lowest rank, often dominated by the others. This wolf tries to solve conflict through non-violent means. He can fight to gain rank but tends to stay in his position because all the other wolves bully him.

In a wolf pack, being the beta is not bad.

It means you are the second in command, soon to be the alpha. It does not carry the same connotation that the term “beta male” carries today. If groups of men were packs of wolves, most of them would fall into the subordinate class; the class that spends time fighting amongst itself to maintain or gain rank. They simply spend their lives bickering and warring with one another, trying to gain ranks. They do this even though they will likely never be the alpha wolf.

Human beings act the same way. They engage in social warfare and try to climb the status ladder. The problem is that they spend the majority of their time on petty matters instead of important matters.

I am encouraging you to split from the pack and work alone until you can find a pack with high aspirations. There is no point in limiting yourself to a weak group of men. If you cannot spend time around excellent men, do not spend time around any men.

Their lethargy and laziness will pull you down to their level.

Even if you were the alpha of the pack, what value would it be? What value is there to be the leader of low-value, low-performance men? Unless you can demonstrate that the pack is improving under your leadership, you are sacrificing your own potential in order to be one of the gang.

A pack of wolves can work together and take down an elk. But if most men today were wolves, they would not be able to take down a rabbit. If you sit down and think about it, is there any reason you want to spend time with these low-value men?

What tends to happen is that young men feel a strong need to fit in and to be part of a pack. This is natural and should be encouraged, but only if the pack is noble. Many young men will compromise their values or aspirations just to “be one of the gang”. This man will soon find himself behind the 8-ball of life just because he chose to associate with losers.

You become who you spend the most time with, so do not spend too much time with low-performance men if it can be helped.

The time you spend with others should lift you up and push you to be better. This is only possible if you are around men of high aspiration and work ethic.

You may ask yourself, “Why would a high-performance man take time with me? I am not high-performance currently; I am not successful or at the level I want to be at. Why would this man waste his valuable time with me”? I will tell you why. If you demonstrate work ethic and high aspiration, you set yourself apart from the rest of the men in this world. You split from the pack.

8 out of every 10 young men you hang out with in college will lack work ethic and goals for their future. Make goals, have high aspiration, and work ethic then demonstrate to a high-performance man that you have these traits, and he will take you under his wing.

He will be so encouraged that he is not the last of his breed that he will gladly spend time with you, though he will not tell you this directly. You can then take advantage of his influence and work ethic and excel in your field. You will experience exponential growth that places you so far above your peers that it will blow your mind.

I – Split from the Pack – Preparing to leave

If you have spent a lot of time in a pack, you have probably grown attached to them. You first need to mentally prepare to detach from them before you physically detach from them. Start by visualizing yourself leaving. Picture yourself being happy to leave and not bothered at all to be alone.

II – Splitting Off

Each time I split from the pack in my life, I did so silently. Call it what you will, but it is the method that works for me. I simply split rapidly without explanation or apology. There is no need to explain yourself, no need to apologize. I did not waste time preparing any explanation or apology for this, I simply split from them. One moment I was one of the gang, the next I stopped “hanging out” with them.

I did not feel the need to remain part of the pack, in fact, I felt liberated from their negative influence. If you have self-awareness and can see how being part of a low-performance group is affecting you, you will have a much easier time separating yourself from them. Why would you want to spend time around a group that brings you down and keeps you from reaching success? Is the urge to fit in that strong for you?

A masculine man has no need to fit in until he is around a group of high-performance, masculine men.

The only time you should feel pressured to be part of a group is if they are collectively better than you. Do not feel pressured to waste time with a pack of losers. There is no honor in this.

Many of you may feel bad after you split from a pack. You will feel regret because you may have hurt the feelings of others. Hurting feelings is a part of life. You cannot tailor your every action just to accommodate every low-performance male who wears his heart on his sleeve. If you do this, you will always limit your performance. All the energy you could be directing towards pursuing excellence is now directed into making sure no one has their precious little feelings hurt. You need to lose this mentality as fast as possible; it will keep you from success 9 times out of 10.

III – Handling the Protests

If the pack enjoyed having you as a part of it, they will likely be sad to see you go and try to persuade you to stay or come back. Especially if you gradually back out from the group. You will have to choose between giving them an excuse and giving them the truth. You could always tell them you are too busy; you have a lot going on at work or school and simply cannot take the time that you could in the past. That is not the noble path, but it is an option you have. The other is to simply explain what you are doing. You are removing yourself from the limiting influence of low-performance men to pursue excellence in your life.

Like crabs in a bucket, they will try to pull you back in, but you need to resist this. Get over the need to be a part of a group. Start viewing groups as supplemental to your life, not the main focus of it. You need to be able to be alone until you can find a suitable tribe to be a part of. One that prioritizes masculine virtue and seeks excellence in every pursuit. It could take years to find a pack like this, and you need to be content with that period of waiting.

I went without a pack for three years of college.

After I discovered during the first semester that no one wanted to work hard, discipline themselves or be more than their current self, I saw no reason to continue spending time with them. What purpose would there have been to that? Why sacrifice myself for men who accomplish nothing and then boasted about it?

The people I saw in college did very little beyond complain about professors, laugh about their 2.5 GPA as a psychology major and stay up all night playing intermural sports. Do they sound like good influences? Does it seem like they are the kind of people who would push each other to become their best selves and achieve in life? No. They boast about being low-performance men and then complain or gossip when high-performance men reach success.

When people protested or asked me to waste time with them, I simply had to refuse. I know that sounds conceited, arrogant, and a selfish way to spend time, but it was absolutely necessary. I am not encouraging you to be an arrogant man who turns his nose up at others below him. Rather, I am encouraging you to avoid spending time with people who are going to tear you down and be a negative influence on you.

IV – Enjoy the Winter

We will call the period of time between splitting from the old pack and finding a new one “The Winter”. Not because it is difficult, cold, and deadly, but because winter is a solitary season. Many animals are spending time alone hibernating. They are spending time with no other animals unless they are a herd animal. It is a season of calm and quiet, a good time for reflection. So this is how you spend your time.

Spend time alone training and improving yourself. Train your body and your mind. Learn everything you can from audiobooks or other online materials. If you spend time working on yourself and your weaknesses, you will qualify for higher-level packs.

Do not rush this period, it is critical for you to parse out who you are, what you want to become, and the type of men you want to spend time around. Write out the characteristics of the ideal man on paper and work every day to become that man. Then write out the characteristics of the pack you want to spend time with and identify what you would need to become to fit in with that pack.

V – Enter the New Pack or Start Your Own

You can either find an already existing pack or create your own. You may find it difficult to find these packs as they are rare, and even more so in the religious world. There are plenty of biker gangs, but very few religious packs.

Religion finds a way to demonize anything it does not like even if it cannot support that attitude through scripture. Be sure to bring up this fact if anyone should protest too much about your desire to create or join a pack. Ignore every person who cannot support their position with logic or scripture. If they cannot support their position, you have identified a person who will never be allowed to enter your pack until he cures his mental disease.

I would encourage you to start a new pack. It does not have to be formal, though it can help. Just look around for the manliest men you can find and invite them to do manly things. Shoot guns, throw axes, kill and eat animals, do martial arts, and discuss philosophy over the campfire. It is as simple as that. The difficult part is keeping the other, weaker men out.

Every group has entrance standards including the church.

Therefore, men should be able to understand that if they do not meet the masculinity requirements then they are not allowed to participate.

Though this is not meant to attack them personally, it is a statement that addresses their fundamental lack of character. There is nothing wrong with refusing to spend time with low-value men. If you spend time in a leper camp, you might contract leprosy; if you spend time with low-performance losers, you might contract their diseases of the mind.

By keeping low-value men out and keeping high-value men in, you create a circle of influence, unlike anything you have ever experienced. Instead of being pushed towards low-value actions, you are pushed towards being more of a man and exhibiting strength and power. This is only possible because you have multiple men pursuing the same goal of strength and masculinity. Positive influence can only work if you are surrounded by many men who are on the same path. It is your responsibility to find, recruit and learn from them. This is how you become a man.

Introduction to Purpose

This article serves as an introduction to purpose.

Men were not designed to place their focus on women. In fact, the majority of women do not even want the myopic focus of men. That is not what turns them on or gets their passion burning hot.

Unfortunately, what we learn in religion is that “women want a good man”. Well, that depends entirely on what you mean by “want” and what you mean by a “good man”. A woman does want a good man for a long-term marriage, but that does not mean she desires him sexually. Just because he is attractive as a lifelong mate does not mean he is sexually attractive. Religious men try to compress these two types of desire into one, but they are simply not the same.

Also, women want men who are not only good men but who are manly. While a woman might consider a good man for marriage, she will not be sexually aroused by him unless he can demonstrate some basic masculine traits.

One of the key traits of masculinity is the focus on some form of a goal. A man needs a purpose.

It does not really matter what this purpose is, it just needs to be some form of life direction. This partially explains why women are primally attracted to firemen, policemen, military men, etc. Because the uniform signifies purpose and direction in life along with blatant signals that this man can exhibit traditional masculine virtues of strength, courage, honor, and mastery. Women are not aroused by the guy spinning his wheels, unsure of himself, and headed nowhere in life.

When God made man, He created him with purpose. Man was instructed to name the animals and keep the garden as his first job. After this God decided that man should not live alone, but that he should have a helper.

Understand that the first man’s purpose was created before a woman was brought into his world, literally.

He did not contort himself to appease her, because his mission and purpose were already created before she was even a part of life. This is how it was meant to be and what women are actually attracted to.

Religious men who lack masculinity and purpose have reformed female attraction to suit their mental schemas. They emphasize taking care of women, putting the needs of women before their own, serving them, etc. While those things are important, they will not arouse genuine passion and desire in a woman. They are also heavily over-promoted.

At her core, she does not even want to be the center of his world. She wants him to be focused on his mission, working towards a desirable goal, and wants to know how she can help him get there. Women were designed to help men; they want to do it and it fulfills them. It can never truly fulfill a woman if you make her the center of her universe. She will always feel that something is missing in life. She will feel that her life focus is misplaced and will become dissatisfied with you. You can combat this by focusing on your own mission.

You must find a purpose.

It really does not matter what it is or if it is the correct one. If you simply begin down a path, a better path will be revealed to you. When you start taking action towards goals, something happens that clarifies your purpose. you begin to move the waters of life, and they become clear.

Set a goal for yourself before you worry about women. This is how God intended for it to be. You must consider yourself and your own needs first before you can consider someone else’s. If you are going to support a wife and family one day, you must be in a position of strength. That strength is not possible unless you first take the time to build that strength in yourself.

While religious men glorify weakness and bow to the altar of effeminacy, you must do the opposite. you must serve yourself first. Not in a selfish way, but in a realistic way; in the way God intended. You must first do your work, create your world, and then invite a woman to be part of it if you so choose.

Purpose is found through work

When you try new things, work different jobs, learn new skills, you begin to learn who you are. You do this by learning what you like and dislike. Learning what kind of work you hate is an important part of uncovering your purpose. Many men never do this as they waste their young years accomplishing nothing and spending far too much time with other boys.

At some point, young men need to learn how to be alone and spend time working, developing their own skills. You can start this work now. Even if you are “busy” with your current life, find a few minutes each day to learn about yourself or to develop new skills.

Other men can tell when you have no purpose.

If you are lacking a purpose, other men can smell it a mile away. It gives off the scent of decaying dreams. If you are interested in gaining the respect of men, you need to work on your purpose.

When it comes to finding your purpose, ignore the advice of everyone but yourself. If you would not switch lives with them, ignore their advice. I ignore the advice of 90% of men and 98% of religious men because I do not want my life to look like theirs. I ignore religious men more often because most of them make the mistake of conflating spiritual virtue with masculine virtue. The two are separate and should remain that way.

People give advice based on the results of their actions. If you do not want the same results they got, then do not copy their actions.

You are the only one who knows what you truly want.

Ignore everyone who tells you what career to choose. You must decide for yourself, ignoring every bit of advice. While a few people may have insight into your skills or character that you do not have and it is fine to consider their words, for the most part, you should listen only to yourself.

Spend time alone discovering your natural inclinations. Figure out what you are good at naturally, what you enjoy doing, what you could be better at the majority of the population at doing, and find out what is valuable in the market.

Once you know yourself, then you can win. Develop skills and purpose becomes clear. As mystical as that sounds, it is the truth. As soon as you get moving, you begin to become aware of what you want to spend your life doing. so get moving early.

Summary

Instant Action

Spend time with yourself. Learn about yourself, ask questions and look for the answers.
Do not contort yourself to accommodate a woman. you are a man with a purpose first. You will never be your best if you make a woman the focus of your life.
Spend time working and developing skills. This allows you to course-correct when you hate work and hone in when you love it.
Ignore the advice of everyone. Do not listen to anyone telling you that you should be X, Y, or Z. Politely tell them you have no interest in their opinion.
Never take advice from someone you would not switch places with. For me, that disqualifies 90% of men and 98% of religious men.
Never take advice from men who conflate spiritual virtue with masculine virtue. They have no maturity.

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