Category: Mentality

Most people are aware of medical treatments like exogenous TRT (Testosterone Replacement Therapy). As men age, they no longer produce the same levels of testosterone that they once did in their youth. Married men with children have this happen even earlier in life, which is one of the attributing causes to the reasons why many Christian men don’t get the frequency of sex they want.

Many men today have turned to the miracle drug of TRT to make up for these reduced levels. One of the consequences of this therapy is that the natural production of testosterone in your own body is essentially eliminated for life. If you decide to go on TRT, you will be on it forever. You will no longer be able to produce your own testosterone in your own body.

Here is a little bit of vocabulary for those who are interested. When your body produces something like testosterone naturally within your own cells, it is said to be “Endogenous” production. “Endo” means “in, inside, or internal” and “gen” means “formed” or “created“. So endogenous means “formed internally” or “formed inside“. When Leydig cells in your body create testosterone, they are doing so endogenously.

Exogenous, however, means that something is being introduced from the outside, in this case, testosterone.

“Ex” means “out of” or “outside“. So exogenous literally means “created outside“. When you inject testosterone, you are injecting an exogenous compound. That exogenous compound will shut down the endogenous production of testosterone.

Many people think that if they introduce something like testosterone exogenously, it will just stack on top of their natural testosterone production. But this almost never happens. It does not matter what the compound is, if it is introduced from the outside, the body will shut down its natural production of that same compound.

The body is smart, it never wastes resources.

So there is no reason for it to continue making a compound that it is able to get from the outside. The body also self-limits resource production. If it detects that there is enough of a compound in your blood or body, it won’t produce it anymore, at least until it detects low levels again. The optimal levels of that compound in the body have been reached, and the body could spend energy on more important functions rather than adding to an already sufficient level of testosterone.

All of that is to say that if you are in the habit of getting your testosterone from an outside source, you eliminate the ability to create it naturally. This is a metaphor for life.

Also, if you are in the habit of constantly looking outside of yourself for motivation, you are getting motivation exogenously and damaging your ability to create your own motivation.

It should be every man’s goal to learn how to create the motivational fire from within. The motivation for your actions must be internal and driven from a place of personal goals. If you chronically supplement your own externally generated goals with externally generated motivation, you will never be able to motivate yourself.

That is not to say that external motivation is worthless or useless, it isn’t. It is very valuable to occasionally look outside ourselves for motivation. But it must be an occasional thing. We must internalize enough of those motivational stories and images so that we progressively reduce the need to go outside of ourselves for motivation. By doing this we turn ourselves into self-sustaining machines that can work for extended periods of time without rest and without the need for motivation from an external source.

Learn to develop your motivation from within.

1. Learn from outside examples

Acquire motivation externally at first, but reduce this over time by internalizing the stories and lessons you learn. It should be your goal to wean off of external motivation as a baby weans off of milk. You must also get to the point where when you are not as motivated as you want, instead of looking to YouTube or to mentors, you can look into your own mind and create that motivation.

This does start by having many mentors and many external sources of motivation. But you must acknowledge now that it is your primary goal to develop internal motivation. Reduce your need for external help over time. We never get to a place of complete independence as men, but it should act as an ideal nonetheless.

We will always have teachers, mentors, and people who motivate us and help us improve, but we should not be reliant on them to the point of weakness. If we cannot even get off the couch and into the gym without watching workout motivation videos, then we are too dependent on that external motivation.

If you cannot open your Bible and train without being motivated in your Bible study group, then you are too dependent on social structures for your own discipline.

At the end of the day, every man is forced to rely on himself. You can depend on, no one. You can rely on no one. And sadly, you can trust no one but yourself. You are the only one who is going to have the ability to do your own work. You can watch all the workout videos you want, but you have to put in your own work and soak your own shirt in your own sweat if you want to look in the mirror and see any changes in your own body. No one is going to be able to lift you up, you must do everything for yourself.

Your goal is to be a self-sustaining powerhouse of a man who generates his own mental food and energy. That must and always will be the ultimate goal. Then you are no longer just a student, but you are a teacher and mentor to other men who must do the same thing in their own time.

2. Visualize and create those same motivating images within your own mind.

When you watch those motivating workout videos on YouTube, what is happening in your mind? You are filling it with images of the possibilities in this world. You are clearly and vividly reminded of what the body is capable of when men are willing to push it and force it to work. Why can you not do the same thing in your mind?

While it is true that there will almost always be something more motivating about a video compared to what you can visualize in your mind, that is no excuse to avoid developing the powers of visualization and internal motivation. You can vividly create or recreate the same images that you see on the screen in your own mind. You can play the same music, create the same camera cuts and hear the same words as you hear from an external source.

When you notice that you are running low on energy and motivation, instead of running to external sources, try visualization first. Imagine all the same things that normally motivate you. Create them in your own mind. Start working on building images now and it will become progressively easier to do so.

3. Establish identity

Make your identity congruent with your goal. Force yourself to believe that you are acting in accordance with your truest nature when you work towards your goal. This will create more motivation.

One of the greatest human drives is the need to be consistent with one’s self-generated identity. We hate being inconsistent with ourselves.

Hypocrisy is unnatural, but it exists because hypocritical behavior is often dormant. We do not realize that we are violating the very same principles that we preach. Once we realize this, we have two choices. Most people choose to go down the path of denial and rationalization. Somehow their behavior is different or they have a special circumstance. The other path is one of recognition and immediate change. We can take advantage of this powerful human need to be consistent with ourselves and use it as the impetus to adjust our behavior.

To create your identity – who do you want to be?

Imagine vividly the person you want to become and examine your choices now. How are your current choices violating your personal identity? If you can force yourself to see the incongruency and inconsistency, you can spur yourself on to change. Humans hate being incongruent with themselves, so this is an excellent tool for change.

Establish clearly who you want to be and refuse to accept any behavior that violates that identity. This is one of the great benefits of Christianity. It provides a clear, black-and-white identity for human beings. That identity then drives human behavior.

If my identity is that I am a Christain, I am forced to act the way Christians act if I want to be consistent with that identity. I cannot engage in behaviors that violate that identity. If I do, I again, am a hypocrite who will either live in denial of his behavior or realize his asynchronicity and change. A clear and well-defined identity is a tool of massive power.

Try these 3 tools to increase your internal motivation. Reduce your intake of exogenous motivation and become a man of power.

Conduct yourselves like men.

Sin separates us from God. For most Christians, that is the end of the story. The introspection and analysis of evil go no further. There is nothing wrong with this. Knowing that sin separates you from God is all you really need to know to justify avoiding sin. But there is more to evil than meets the eye. More potent and long-lasting consequences to a lifestyle of sin and self-service. There are practical consequences of sin that we need to understand.

Some Christians call themselves virtuous because they stop analyzing sin once they realize it separates them from God. They apply the same nobility to themselves that the “God says it, that settles it” group does. There is no nobility in choosing to remain ignorant.

A further study on the consequences of an evil lifestyle is extremely helpful in multiple scenarios.

It is first helpful in learning how to communicate with people of the world. They need to see that there are practical consequences to certain behaviors that God has forbidden. The rules God makes are not arbitrary restrictions designed to spoil our fun, The regulations exist for a purpose, to protect us from unintended, practical consequences of sin.

And secondly, it helps with yourself and in modulating your own behavior and motivation. I find that I am more motivated to engage in specific behaviors when I understand the depths to which I can be affected by those behaviors. If I know that I am not only avoiding separating myself from God but also am avoiding consequences that affect me in the physical world, I am one-thousand times stronger and more committed to staying away from that behavior.

The Practical consequences of sin are those which are experienced even by the non-religious.

When a man contracts an STD because he slept with multiple women who were not his wife, that is an example of a practical consequence. You do not have to be religious to understand it. Even secular people understand the risks inherent in sleeping around and they know there are unintended consequences for certain actions.

Whether you are religious or not, consequences for your behavior exist. Every behavior has a resultant effect on your life.

Now I use the STD just as an example. I do not want to jump on the bandwagon of annoying Christians whose only marketing strategy for sexual discipline is fearmongering.

We all can understand that every action has a result. This is the law of cause and effect. While religion allows us to make moral and ethical judgments about behaviors, even the secular can benefit from studying religion. By understanding what behaviors are sinful, you can inadvertently uncover what behaviors will have negative practical consequences in your life.

For example, sexual discipline is about much more than restricting sexual access to one woman. It is also about avoiding the dozens of practical consequences that result when you indiscriminately engage in sex with women.

Every command in the Bible is more than just behavioral restriction.

It is about protecting humanity from the unintended consequences of immoral behavior. Behind each command is a guard rail that prevents us from decreasing the quality of our life on earth.

If you want a peaceful, tranquil life with reduced stresses and problems, you need to study the commands of God. These commands are the blueprint for excellent living.

The secular of the world will call it restrictive, but we know better. All the behaviors that secular people engage in leave them with emptiness in their souls. These people will continue to try to fill the void with whatever they can find, but it will not matter. At 2 a.m. when they get up to go the bathroom and see themselves in the mirror, they will know the truth. They may never admit it to anyone else as long as they live, but they know their life is meaningless.

Even on earth, we can understand the benefits of self-restriction. Diets restrict us from eating certain enjoyable foods. But we know that avoiding those foods leads to better results down to the road. We know we will be fit and healthy if we eat in a specific, albeit, restrictive manner.

The same is true for physical training. We have to restrict a few units of our time and dedicate them to exercising the body. This restricts us from spending that time elsewhere. Physical training has an opportunity cost. But we all know that the benefits in the future outweigh the temporary cost and discomfort of the present moment.

Study the commands of God.

You will find in those commands, if you study long enough, all kinds of traps that can be avoided. You will earn more money (and keep more of your money over the long term) if you study the teachings in the Proverbs.

Importantly, you will keep the wrong women out of your life if you study the Proverbs and teachings of Christ.

Worldly men like Stefan Aarnio are students of the word of God. Perhaps they do not believe every word is from the mouth of God and perhaps they do. However, they are taking the time to study the Bible because along with being from the mouth of God it contains timeless wisdom. The kind of wisdom that men both secular and religious cannot afford to ignore. Ignoring the teachings in the ancient text make men prone to making errors.

Wisdom comes when study is combined with concentration, rational thought, and application. Most people skip the study component and rush right into the action. While I am certainly a fan of taking action and charging into the fray, it also pays to do a little thinking beforehand. It is important to take some time and plan out the action before pulling the trigger.

Take the time to do some study. Study the Bible, even glance through other religious texts. I do not believe that any other religious text is from the mouth of God, but that does not mean it cannot contain some degree of insight.

We have to take advantage of the knowledge of those who have lived before us. We can only do this through study and application.

Through study and wisdom comes foresight. By understanding the practical consequences of sin, we can tailor our behavior in the present. We can take actions now that will help us to avoid consequences later in life. That is true wisdom. Being able to act in the present with the future in mind. It is not the only definition of wisdom, but it is one perspective with which to think of wisdom.

The wise man looks into the future, plans accordingly, and follows up his plans with action. Even the best plans are useless without action. This is the critical component. Action built upon wisdom is the key to a good existence. Wisdom and foresight help us avoid the practical, earthly consequences of sin.

It is very common for people in religion to want to do away with the darkness that lives in the heart of men. This is understandable because we see all the negative behaviors men engage in when they give in to the darkness.

Instead of learning to harness this power, they use it for evil. They use it to rape and pillage, or to destroy and kill. I have no problem with destruction or killing when it is directed towards those men who practice evil. And the God of the Bible has no problem with it either, as He rewards all according to their actions.

But when people in the church see the results of the darkness they instantly assume that everything about it is bad. They assume that anything and everything that is related to or is the result of the darkness is evil. The problem with this is that it robs religious people of great power. Specifically, it robs religious men.

Men are gifted with an incredible ability to go to war or to engage in the hunt. They are able to call upon tremendous energy reserves when necessary. These energy reserves are composed of the various “hot” emotions: rage, anger, hatred, and violence.

Contemporary, feminized religion will try to label these items as “evil things”, though, in reality, they are powerful energy sources that could be directed towards constructive pursuits. A man who learns to leverage these hot emotions on the battlefield is a ferocious warrior. The man who learns to leverage these emotions on the hunting ground is honored at the feasting table. The warrior who protects the group, society, or civilization is honored, respected, and held in the highest esteem. 

When society becomes too safe, these warrior virtues are not prized. Who needs the great warrior when there is no great war? Where is the need for the great hunter when there is more food than anyone could eat in a lifetime and men eat themselves to death through the disease of obesity? Where is the demand for a man to protect the tribe when every feminist saturated university provides safe spaces for people whose feelings are hurt?

When there is no demand for masculinity, then there is no supply of men.

When there is no demand for the proper application of the darkness, then a generation of men will cruise up who do not have the ability to leverage their hardwired violent nature.

In the place of strength, we have a weakness. We have generations of men who have been taught to act like girls, and they fulfill that role well. Men are excellent at doing what they are told and serving society.

If society tells men to act like girls, they will do it. If society wants men to “be vulnerable”, they will do it. If men are asked to get in touch with their feminine side, they will gladly oblige. Some men do this out of their nature, as men are designed to serve a group. Other men are simply doing anything they are asked so they can have sex. 

What could be a great tool for acquiring personal power becomes what religion complains about. Instead of raising men to be castrated from the womb, why not teach men to leverage their own internal power source? Why not learn to tap nearly unlimited energy reserves and concentrate them on constructive pursuits? 

What God gave to man as a gift has become unnecessary. The population feels safe so the men have no need to hunt and fight, so they lounge around watching football and complaining about the world. Even older adults wallow in a victim mindset.

Since the men have taken a backseat, women have taken the role of building men into their own hands. They are making men in their image.

Women treat boys like malfunctioning girls and attempt to educate the darkness out of them.

And unfortunately, they are in a position of power where this is possible. The vast majority of school teachers are women. Therefore, schools will be built with women in mind. The school system is built by women, for women, and is meant to produce women even if it means converting men into women.

This has gone on for a few decades now, and these same women are wondering where all the real men went. About the time they or their daughters reach marrying age, they finally lift their heads above water to see the world they have created. They never bothered to take a moment to look at what they were turning men into. They were waist-deep in play dates and parent-teacher conferences. When we become immersed in a process, we sometimes become blind to the direction we are sailing in. This can be advantageous if we lose ourselves in our work. This can also be a serious disadvantage if we start building feminized men and do not stop checking our progress until they are already fully built. 

Men today are built by women, for women. But not to be attractive to women, only to be useful to them.

Unfortunately, women make men into the very people they hate. Women think they want to build a woman-like man when in reality they truly want a masculine man. But how is a man going to learn to be masculine if his first two decades of life he is programmed to seek the approval of women? He first seeks the approval of his mother, then his school teacher, and finally his wife. By the time he gets to his wife, he is unrecognizable. He is so feminized that it is almost unrecoverable. Fortunately, there is a difference between mostly feminized, and completely feminized. 

Women educate the darkness out of men. Men have to rely on one another to relearn the age-old principles of using darkness to their advantage. 

There is the background. Here is a functional definition of the darkness for us:

“An energy source made up of the hot emotions: rage, anger, hate, violence, aggression, and frustration”.

Obviously, any of these emotions could be used for evil. And they often are, because most men do not know how to manage them. They have had poor behavioral examples growing up and never had a man teach them how to take their most powerful energy and direct it towards something meaningful. Here is a step-by-step process for how to use the darkness. This example will start with something simple: training the body.

It is easy to learn how to use the darkness in training because it is natural. Training is a war against the body and against gravity. You are battling with your weakness and you change into simulated adversity. This strikes a chord deep within us and powerful energy begins to overtake us. When men train, many times they will realize that this is one of the core activities that they were built to perform: warlike work.

In fact, it is only the men who are built for war.

The battlefield does not fit women despite what the feminized modern societies are trying to push. The only reason female warriors are even a consideration is that we have no real war. The wars we have are so depersonalized and far away that we are willing to entertain any harebrained idea with regards to how those wars should be carried out and about who should be on the front lines of them. The darkness is useful in war and it is in training. Here is the protocol:

1. Be alone. 
2. Start training. Begin your workout in your typical fashion.
3. Progress to the difficult sections of the workout and prepare your mind.
4. Put your head down and begin breathing heavily through your nose. Keep your eyes elevated but your head down.
5. Lift your shoulders. Make yourself feel bigger. 
6. Move your arms slightly away from your sides and clench your firsts. 
7. Tighten your stomach.
8. Activate your mind. Call on whatever dark emotions you have been suppressing (not repressing). Recall the situation that angered you or the event that stirred the darkness. 
9. Take another deep breath through the nose and visualize electricity flowing through your whole body. 
10. Unleash your fury. 

This protocol only works if you have been successfully controlling your emotions. You cannot repress emotions. To repress an emotion is to bury it, to pretend like it does not exist, and try to convince yourself that you are fine. To suppress an emotion, however, it is simply not allowed to be expressed in the same instant that it is created.

You are able to recognize the emotion when it arises and quickly bottle it. You do not want to waste that valuable energy source on some petty individual or social situation that is angering you. The secret mantra of thought is this: suppress and redirect. Concentrate that power somewhere else. If you can learn to take the energy of the darkness and put it towards something valuable, you will be unstoppable.

This darkness is the energy that allows you to push just a little harder in your training. Or perhaps it allows you to study a little longer or a little more intently for your school. This is the darkness that allows you to put in that extra hour at work or deliver that project before schedule. It is the power that overcomes fatigue, and it can only come from darkness. No light emotion could ever compare with the raging power of the darkness. But it is the gift of men to learn how to manage these emotions, control them and use them to serve the societal unit. The darkness is your secret to limitless progress, achievement, and success. You can listen to the people in religion who have asked you to cut off your gonads and be a woman. Or you can listen to the Creator who has gifted you with the unrelenting power of the darkness. Your choice. 

Related: Productive Uses of Masculine Aggression

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