Action demands a reaction. This is one of the basic laws of the universe. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Many times we forget this. We are going about our business or doing our work and we are not seeing any results. Instead of pressing on, we get discouraged and quit.
While it would be acceptable when we see no results to step back, examine what we are doing, and try to make better, more efficient action. However, most people quit the second they do not have the results they want. And many times they do so right after they give a feeble effort for those results.
Every action we take should be in the direction of our goals. If it is not an efficient action, we can change our direction or push somewhere different. But we should not become discouraged when we see no results.
Sometimes a man hammers a stone 100 times before it splits. And as various authors have noted before, it was not the 100th strike that cracked the stone, but the cumulative effects of continuous effort across each of those individual swings. That is what we are doing in our lives.
We are swinging at a stone, pounding it, attempting to create some results in our lives. And we will not always see results, and we need to learn to have patience with that fact.
We should also be sure we are taking the most efficient action possible. Many people try to open the door of opportunity by pushing right next to the hinges. You will not have the best leverage if you try to open a door at the hinges. You need to maximize the force and leverage by pushing farther away from the door.
Everyone understands that. It is a principle of physics that we deal with every day. Yet so many people, in their working lives, push as hard as they can at the hinges instead of pushing with a sustainable force at the doorknob.
If you want the best results, you have to apply hard force along with efficient leverage. This is how we start to make progress in our lives. But we also have to take action.
Instead of making excuses for why we are not where we want to be, we have to be willing to look in the mirror and fix the problems that we are seeing. If we are not content with our lives, we have all the power in the world to change them. And if we work as unto the Lord (Colossians 3:23), we will no doubt be successful.
Every action creates a reaction. We have to make sure our actions are strong. When our actions are in line with our goals, compounded by efficient force, we make progress. When we make progress, we have happiness. To get the best reactions, we need the best actions. Take the best actions today.
It seems like every month something is happening. Nothing of importance is happening, but modern culture would have you believe the opposite.
Black month. Gay “pride”month. Hispanic Month Women’s Month
Not everyone deserves to have their own month. Cultures are not created equal. Sexual choice is irrelevant and doesn’t make anyone special.
Chromosomal background is irrelevant and does not make anyone special.
Each of these months or celebrations is continued propagation of this false idea: you are special just for being you. Now while it is true that every individual is valuable in the eyes of God and that all people are created equal. It is not true, however, that you are special because of some genetic characteristic or behavioral chose that you cannot control. all of that is irrelevant.
Furthermore, many cultures are not only common, but inferior to other cultures. Take Islamic culture. If you are interested in Women’s rights, you cannot also be interested in Sharia law. You are putting a lion and a sheep in the same room and asking them to “get along”.
Culture does not make you special. In fact, nothing can make you special outside the individual effort you put into your own life. your group membership is irrelevant. The nature of your genitalia is also irrelevant.
I – By attempting to make sex everything, the secular world has made sex nothing.
People wait their whole lives for a mystical experience of sex, further emboldened by the world to think that it must be something so incredible as it is mentioned, constantly. It is the topic of movies, songs, and magazine articles to name a few. Sex is one of the things that humans focus on the most. It has more hype than any other topic.
Why is it then that so many people are disappointed by the sexual act? One of the most common complaints of men today, even men who do not wait for marriage, is that there is just nothing special about sex. If men who save themselves for marriage and commit to one woman are thinking this, can you imagine what the secular men must be thinking? Sex just isn’t what it was made out to be in the minds of these men.
This is compounded by the brutal effects of pornography on nearly 100% of men in the world. It is essentially impossible not to be exposed to some form of pornography. Whether it’s a billboard, a magazine cover or an internet site does not matter. There is more pornography made and in existence today than could ever have been imagined just a few years ago. And when men are exposed to anything from softcore to hardcore porn, it changes their brain.
It’s further compounded by how lonely and isolated men become after being exposed. Porn is truly a devastating tool of the enemy.
But all of that is to say that men who are used to masturbating to porn or even just masturbating without external images are likely going to find sex less satisfying than if they work to abstain (which itself is a whole other topic).
These external images are the first way the adversary damages the sexual relationship between a man and his wife. Understand that it is not by magic that sex is becoming less satisfying for men over time. This is a tool of the enemy. If he can get you alone or make you question your principles, he will do it. This is just one of the many methods of attack he has at his disposal.
II – Sex aloneis not worth the hype.
There is more to marriage than sex, so if sex is the only good thing you were looking forward to in marriage, it won’t be good enough to outweigh the negative parts of marriage. Especially if you choose poorly in your partner.
Sex is a great thing. However, it is not the only thing that marriage consists of. Before I was married I never thought I would say something like that because it was so annoying to hear from other married men. But it is true. In fact, there is so much more to living with another person than simply having sex with them that you need to consider carefully who you will marry.
I can assure you that one hour in the bedroom will not outweigh all their character flaws. It will not cancel out the parts of their personality that annoy you. If you were hoping for sex to magically make those things disappear into nothingness, you are looking in the wrong place.
In fact, you have the ability to choose so poorly in a wife that it takes away all your desire for sex and for the marriage in general.
You can see this happen to the men around you. Observe the ones who are miserable in their marriages and you will see decreased sexual frequency and satisfaction in their lives.
And the enemy wants this, of course. The less you have sex with your own wife the more sexual pressure builds just by the production of more and more sperm. And the more this pressure builds in you, the more likely you are to just give in and spill your seed with any woman you meet.
But that does not mean pornography or masturbation isn’t an option for them. The enemy wants at all costs to keep you away from your wife sexually. He loves the sexually dissatisfied man or woman in marriage. They are in the perfect position of weakness to be blindsided by a flanking maneuver and crushed in a sexual affair.
All of that to say you need to choose a life partner carefully. If you cannot tolerate them before you are having sex with them, sex will not make them any better for you. You need to decide if you can handle this person day in and day out, and not just in the bedroom.
III – Sex will never be as pleasurable as the craving for sex is painful.
This is one of the more painful truths of life. And every man understands this after a masturbation session. The urge was so incredibly powerful that you thought there was nothing you could do to control it. Then after the orgasm, you wonder “What in the world did I just do? I didn’t need that“.
The urge and craving for sex are very painful. Here is s strange truth: We do not want to have sex because we want to have sex. Rather, we want to have sex because we want to rid ourselves of the painful feeling of craving. This does not only apply to sex. Many things in life are the same way.
Many of us eat to rid ourselves of a painful craving or the painful sensation of hunger. Or we drink to get rid of the pain of being thirsty. So many of our actions in life are rooted in our desire to move away from pain, rather than to move towards pleasure. Pleasure is not that motivating to everyone. But avoiding pain is very motivating.
Whether you are motivated more by a desire for pleasure or by a desire to avoid pain is something you have to discover about yourself.
It only takes a few moments of introspection. But you can clearly learn who you are and what motivates you by figuring this out.
You will be more motivated by your desire to satisfy the craving for sex than you will be for sex itself. If we as men did not have sexual urges and cravings, we might not even have sex. The few seconds of orgasm are not worth the hour of buildup to get there, many men are reporting. If we were only motivated by a desire for pleasure, there would be better pleasures in life to choose from.
And men will obviously throw away their entire career by one decision made due to the sexual urge. The urge is powerful, the act is significantly less powerful, and the hype is overrated. By understanding this you can set yourself up in a position of power. Understand that the urge is temporary. Understand that you will be more motivated to avoid pain than to seek pleasure. And remember that sex will never be what you want it to be, so do not waste time making decisions based on sex.
I – Humans are religious by nature, all of them will worship something.
In the modern world, people have resorted to worshipping the earth, which is the environmentalist movement. Atheists worship themselves. The common man worships sports or his career.
People have worshipped nature, planets and other deities they craft in their minds for thousands of years. It does not matter what it is. If something exists, some group of humans will find a way to turn it into a god and worship it.
It does not matter who you are, you will find a way to worship something and dedicate your very existence to it.
If a man tries to oppose this nature he will be depressed. He will be acutely aware that he is rejecting some integral part of his very nature by trying to worship nothing. Few men ever make it to the point of worshipping nothing. Most people have a religion of some kind.
II – Atheism is a first-world luxury.
Men cannot become atheists without incredible fiscal backing and times of luxury and peace. The same applies to religious and political liberalism. these philosophies exist because man is so well off that he has immense free time to sit around and think about his life and existence. He can then work to rationalize any genre of belief that he wants. This is one of the reasons that there were so few atheists hundreds and thousands of years ago. People were too busy working and dying from diseases to worry about arbitrary rationalizations of the world.
Some atheists want to make it sound like humans have become more rational and scientific over time and this is why there is increased atheism in the world. But this is not true. Not just because atheism violates the laws of science but because it violates the laws of nature as well. People stopped worshipping God or other various gods. Instead, they began worshipping science or the earth.
People never cease to be religious.
The religious nature and the desire for religious experience permeate human nature. It does not matter who you are or what you do, you will always have a religious nature and you will use it to worship something.
Religion overall will always ebb and flow. It will look like it is decaying and then there will be a revival. It will seem as if people are becoming less religious, then some major evil will shock us back to religion.
Wars or major crises in the world shock us out of our complacency and force us to think about the bigger picture. We are forced to think about the things that matter in life. Those things tend to not be the issues proposed by atheists and liberals.
III – Atheists typically worship themselves. Sometimes they also worship sex, but this is usually just a byproduct of that self-focused worship.
They worship themselves because they place themselves as the highest good to be attained and preserved. Everything they do is for the benefit of the self. While I am in complete support of masculine self-interest, what atheists do does not benefit the group at all.
Usually, if a man takes care of himself, he will indirectly become better for the group (his family/society, etc). But the atheist does not care at all about the group. The atheists would steal food from the group just to preserve their own life.
This is all because atheists worship themselves. This is one of the most basic principles to understand. Remember it and use this knowledge as leverage when you talk to these people.
For true, lasting fuel to motivate your endeavors, you need enemies. When you are knee-deep in the comforts of life and the world, you can forget what made you work hard in the beginning. Sometimes you will not be willing to work hard out of ambition or the desire for gain, sometimes you need more. You need the energy that comes from having an opponent.
Comfort provides no energy. But if you have an enemy, you have a wellspring of eternal energy. There is nothing more motivating than having someone who wants to go to war with you. At that moment you can channel your natural warlike nature and convert it into energy for success.
You do not have to go to war with people directly. That may bother the sensitive conscience of many Christian people. You can, however, use the emotional fuel from that enemy to motivate yourself to success.
Take advantage of the fact that people will inevitably want to go to war with you. If you do this, you will have limitless power. Having an enemy gives you purpose, direction, and a clear-cut destination. Every one of your actions begins to have real meaning. All of your work is energized. What once fatigued you is now nothing more than a bump in the road. Take advantage of the energy reservoir that comes when you are at war.
II – Having an enemy is a part of life.
Sometimes it is a consequence of our poor decisions, other times people just want to go to war with us. There is no need to complain about this because it is actually a useful tool. Use enemies to your advantage.
Look at the stories of David. This was a man at war for his entire life. This was a result of his own actions (2 Samuel 12:10). He wrote many psalms about his enemies. He would write about them surrounding him at all sides. And he would also write about crushing them in battle.
Make no mistake about it, those who hate God and hate our religion are our enemies. They hate the Bible and they hate everything that Christians stand for.
III – Do not make enemies directly unless absolutely necessary.
By biblical law, we need to be at peace with all men, as possible. However, if someone decides to make war with us, we should use that energy to our advantage.
“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live in peace with all people”
We should not go out of our way to start wars. But if wars are started against us, we have the right to defend ourselves.
There is this popular notion in Christianty that tries to paint Christians as pacifists. People think that Christians will do nothing as their families are tortured and killed by governments or other enemies. This is not true. Christians have the right to self-defense just as much as anyone else. We should not go out of our way to attack others directly, but we can retaliate to protect ourselves.
Some Christians twist “do not resist an evil person” (Matthew 5:39) to mean that we should never lift a single finger to protect ourselves or others from war. This is not true. We have the right to go to war. Humans will always go to war and we may have to be a part of it. There will be war from now until the end of time, it is in human nature. It is built into the very DNA of men.
You do not have to go to physical war yourself, but you must take advantage of this programming that you have. You need to learn to channel this natural warlike nature into productive pursuits. That Is how you begin using enemies to your advantage.
IV – Be at war with the devil
If it bothers your conscience to wage war with enemies who started a war with you, you have options. We are all at war with the devil and his angels. This is an inescapable part of life. He hates you and wants you to fall, and you are at war with him all the days of your life.
Activate your apparatus of hatred. You were given the emotion of hatred for a reason, for there is a proper use for it. While we should not hate our fellow men, we are to hate sin and the devil. That is the greatest possible outset for this emotion of pure hatred. It is one of the most valuable emotions we have.
Oftentimes the Bible gives parameters around hot emotions such as anger. For example:
We are allowed to experience these emotions, but they must be controlled. Using our hatred and directing it towards sin and the devil is the parameter that we must follow.
V – Recognize Camoflagued Emenies
We have more enemies than we think we do. This is a sad and unfortunate reality, but we need to be aware of it. Others hate us and we may never know it, but we should be on the lookout for it.
Even inside religion, there are people who teach principles that oppose what we know to be true from the Bible. They teach that the Bible does not mean what it says. Or they teach that there is no need for you to behave with the extreme discipline that you do.
Either way, they are teaching contrary to what the Bible teaches. Paul writing to the church at Galatia has the following to say about the men who teach principles that oppose the Bible:
“As we have already said, so now I say again: If anybody is preaching to you a gospel other than what you accepted, let them be under God’s curse!”
That sounds like a serious bit of phraseology. The Bible makes it clear that those who teach another gospel are cursed. They are our enemies, and there is no way around this.
Because of this, we should work hard to understand the true principles of God so we can crush these arguments. Notice I do not say we should crush the people making the arguments, but rather the arguments themselves.
Crushing others directly does nothing but give us a few seconds of satisfaction. But we set ourselves back by damaging the relationship and damaging rapport. When it comes to people who are already religious, we have to be more careful with how we handle them. They may not know that they are fighting for the enemy with the things they are teaching and preaching.
Take advantage of your enemies. You are going to have them all the days of your life. All you can do is make the best of it.
